--- title: "Meaning & Key Takeaway of: But when you are being physically and…" description: "\"But when you are being physically and psychologically tortured, it is difficult to remove yourself from the pressingness of the moment at hand. Here's ..." image: "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/fc6/hank-green-2600_bullying_but-when-you-are-being-physically-and-ps_2096836.png" --- # But when you are being physically and psychologically… ![“But when you are being physically and psychologically tortured, it is difficult to remove yourself from the pressingness of the moment at hand. Here's how I dealt with bullying: I cried, I hated myself, I hated my life. I didn't deal with it, I survived it, but I never dealt with it. So here are…” quote by Hank Green](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/fc6/hank-green-2600_bullying_but-when-you-are-being-physically-and-ps_2096836.png) [Download](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/fc6/hank-green-2600_bullying_but-when-you-are-being-physically-and-ps_2096836.png) [Open image](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/fc6/hank-green-2600_bullying_but-when-you-are-being-physically-and-ps_2096836.png) > “But when you are being physically and psychologically tortured, it is difficult to remove yourself from the pressingness of the moment at hand. Here's how I dealt with bullying: I cried, I hated myself, I hated my life. I didn't deal with it, I survived it, but I never dealt with it. So here are two tips from someone with lots of experience. 1: It's not about you, it has nothing to do with you, it's about the assholes doing it to you. 2: Your job is not to deal with it, your job is to survive it, which you CAN do because it WILL end. And then yes, it will get better.” [Hank Green](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/hank-green/) ## About This Quote This interpretation was drafted with AI assistance. It is one reading of the quote, not the author's own explanation. Enduring severe abuse feels overwhelming, but focusing on survival rather than fixing the abuse helps one persist until it ends. **In simple terms:** Survive abuse, don’t try to fix it. Key Takeaway Prioritize survival, remember it’s temporary. Themes bullying survival mental health resilience self‑care Mood determined hopeful serious Type advice motivational When to use this quote - school - online harassment - workplace bullying - personal crises Key Concepts psychological trauma coping strategies external locus of control Questions to Reflect On - How can you protect yourself while waiting for the abuse to end? - What support systems can you activate now? 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