--- title: "Meaning & Key Takeaway of: And saying it--the first time we say it…" description: "\"“And saying it--the first time we say it and mean it-- we cross over into that other world that has so far been no more than a suspicion or a dream. Sa..." image: "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/b06/glen-duncan-1307_dreams_and-saying-it-the-first-time-we-say-it-a_2577075.jpg" --- # And saying it--the first time we say it and mean it-- we… ![“And saying it--the first time we say it and mean it-- we cross over into that other world that has so far been no more than a suspicion or a dream. Saying it, we enter the golden realm where the old structures of doubt and the agony of incompleteness disappear, and the utterance itself is the…” quote by Glen Duncan](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/b06/glen-duncan-1307_dreams_and-saying-it-the-first-time-we-say-it-a_2577075.jpg) [Download](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/b06/glen-duncan-1307_dreams_and-saying-it-the-first-time-we-say-it-a_2577075.jpg) [Open image](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/b06/glen-duncan-1307_dreams_and-saying-it-the-first-time-we-say-it-a_2577075.jpg) > ““And saying it--the first time we say it and mean it-- we cross over into that other world that has so far been no more than a suspicion or a dream. Saying it, we enter the golden realm where the old structures of doubt and the agony of incompleteness disappear, and the utterance itself is the first bright rung on the ladder of new possibility. What a relief! What a joyous relief from the distinctive weight of your own soul, to be able to look unguardedly into the eyes of another and say it, meaning it and heady with knowing you mean it: "I love you." If the wind had blown through me at that moment, my body would have sung like a chime.”” [Glen Duncan](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/glen-duncan/) ## About This Quote This interpretation was drafted with AI assistance. It is one reading of the quote, not the author's own explanation. Expressing love sincerely opens a new reality, dissolving doubt and incompleteness, bringing relief and connection with another. **In simple terms:** Saying “I love you” truly creates a hopeful, and relief. Key Takeaway Speak love honestly to transform relationships. Themes love vulnerability connection self‑acceptance Mood relieved joyful intimate Type emotional relationship philosophical When to use this quote - confession of love - deep conversations - intimate moments - relationship milestones Key Concepts psychology existentialism interpersonal dynamics Questions to Reflect On - What holds you back from saying love? - How does sincerity change the listener’s perception? 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