--- title: "Meaning & Key Takeaway of: If thy daughter marry well, thou hast…" description: "\"If thy daughter marry well, thou hast found a son; if not, thou hast lost a daughter.\" — Francis Quarles" image: "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/1d9/francis-quarles-1740_children_if-thy-daughter-marry-well-thou-hast-fou_468484.png" --- # If thy daughter marry well, thou hast found a son; if not… ![“If thy daughter marry well, thou hast found a son; if not, thou hast lost a daughter.” quote by Francis Quarles](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/1d9/francis-quarles-1740_children_if-thy-daughter-marry-well-thou-hast-fou_468484.png) [Download](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/1d9/francis-quarles-1740_children_if-thy-daughter-marry-well-thou-hast-fou_468484.png) [Open image](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/1d9/francis-quarles-1740_children_if-thy-daughter-marry-well-thou-hast-fou_468484.png) > “If thy daughter marry well, thou hast found a son; if not, thou hast lost a daughter.” [Francis Quarles](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/francis-quarles/) ## About This Quote This interpretation was drafted with AI assistance. It is one reading of the quote, not the author's own explanation. A marriage that brings a good son is a gain; a bad marriage loses a daughter’s value. **In simple terms:** Good marriage is gain; bad marriage is loss. Key Takeaway Choose wisely in marriage decisions. Themes marriage family values legacy choice Mood reflective cautious Type advice cautionary When to use this quote - arranged marriage - family planning - inheritance decisions - social status - gender expectations Key Concepts social expectations gender roles inheritance Questions to Reflect On - What defines a "good" marriage? - How do societal expectations shape marital choices? 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