--- title: "Meaning & Key Takeaway of: Understanding. I was in love with Ian…" description: "\"“Understanding. I was in love with Ian Aberdeen. So deeply, so incredibly. And it was true and it was sublime and it was mine. Nothing could take that ..." image: "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/700/fisher-amelie-3261_love_understanding-i-was-in-love-with-ian-abe_2810744.jpg" --- # Understanding. I was in love with Ian Aberdeen. So deeply… ![“Understanding. I was in love with Ian Aberdeen. So deeply, so incredibly. And it was true and it was sublime and it was mine. Nothing could take that away from me and that was absolutely freeing to me. I owned that love. I chose it. I owed no one for it because it couldn’t have been purchased. It…” quote by Fisher Amelie](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/700/fisher-amelie-3261_love_understanding-i-was-in-love-with-ian-abe_2810744.jpg) [Download](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/700/fisher-amelie-3261_love_understanding-i-was-in-love-with-ian-abe_2810744.jpg) [Open image](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/700/fisher-amelie-3261_love_understanding-i-was-in-love-with-ian-abe_2810744.jpg) > ““Understanding. I was in love with Ian Aberdeen. So deeply, so incredibly. And it was true and it was sublime and it was mine. Nothing could take that away from me and that was absolutely freeing to me. I owned that love. I chose it. I owed no one for it because it couldn’t have been purchased. It belonged to me free and clear. I had never felt more empowered.”” [Fisher Amelie](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/fisher-amelie/) ## About This Quote This interpretation was drafted with AI assistance. It is one reading of the quote, not the author's own explanation. She describes love as self‑owned, empowering, and unpurchasable, freeing her. **In simple terms:** Love that belongs to you empowers you. Key Takeaway Own your love, don’t seek validation. Themes love empowerment self‑ownership Mood hopeful confident Type romantic personal growth When to use this quote - relationships - self‑esteem - creative expression - therapy Key Concepts personal autonomy emotional freedom Questions to Reflect On - What does owning love mean to you? - How does this empowerment affect other areas of life? A Different Perspective Love can be fragile and dependent. ★ ★ ★ ★ ★ No ratings yet [Love](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/about/love/) [Understanding love](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/about/understanding-love/) ## Related quotes > [“I owned that love. I chose it. I owed no one for it because it couldn't have been purchased. 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