--- title: "Meaning & Key Takeaway of: But when I lose my temper, I find it…" description: "\"But when I lose my temper, I find it difficult to forgive myself. I feel I've failed. I can be calm in a crisis, in the face of death or things that hu..." image: "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/9ae/emma-thompson-3232_calm_but-when-i-lose-my-temper-i-find-it-diff_3015873.jpg" --- # But when I lose my temper, I find it difficult to forgive… ![“But when I lose my temper, I find it difficult to forgive myself. I feel I've failed. I can be calm in a crisis, in the face of death or things that hurt badly. I don't get hysterical, which may be masochistic of me.” quote by Emma Thompson](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/9ae/emma-thompson-3232_calm_but-when-i-lose-my-temper-i-find-it-diff_3015873.jpg) [Download](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/9ae/emma-thompson-3232_calm_but-when-i-lose-my-temper-i-find-it-diff_3015873.jpg) [Open image](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/9ae/emma-thompson-3232_calm_but-when-i-lose-my-temper-i-find-it-diff_3015873.jpg) > “But when I lose my temper, I find it difficult to forgive myself. I feel I've failed. I can be calm in a crisis, in the face of death or things that hurt badly. I don't get hysterical, which may be masochistic of me.” [Emma Thompson](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/emma-thompson/) ## About This Quote This interpretation was drafted with AI assistance. It is one reading of the quote, not the author's own explanation. When losing temper, self‑forgiveness becomes hard, leading to feelings of failure despite calmness in crises. **In simple terms:** Temper loss makes self‑criticism tough, even if one stays calm. Key Takeaway Practice self‑compassion after outbursts. Themes self‑criticism emotional regulation forgiveness self‑esteem resilience Mood reflective empathetic vulnerable Type inspirational psychological When to use this quote - personal setbacks - stressful moments - relationship conflicts - public speaking - health crises Key Concepts Self‑compassion mindfulness emotional awareness Questions to Reflect On - What steps can you take to forgive yourself after anger? - How does calmness in crisis contrast with inner turmoil? 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