--- title: "Meaning & Key Takeaway of: I certainly never felt rejected because…" description: "\"“I certainly never felt rejected because they had given me up. My parents knew nothing about my birth mother, yet always explained with certainty that ..." image: "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/172/emily-giffin-938_adopted_i-certainly-never-felt-rejected-because_378407.jpg" --- # I certainly never felt rejected because they had given me… ![“I certainly never felt rejected because they had given me up. My parents knew nothing about my birth mother, yet always explained with certainty that she didn't "give me up" or "give me away" - she made a plan for me, the best one she could make under her circumstances, whatever those were.” quote by Emily Giffin](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/172/emily-giffin-938_adopted_i-certainly-never-felt-rejected-because_378407.jpg) [Download](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/172/emily-giffin-938_adopted_i-certainly-never-felt-rejected-because_378407.jpg) [Open image](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/172/emily-giffin-938_adopted_i-certainly-never-felt-rejected-because_378407.jpg) > ““I certainly never felt rejected because they had given me up. My parents knew nothing about my birth mother, yet always explained with certainty that she didn't "give me up" or "give me away" - she made a plan for me, the best one she could make under her circumstances, whatever those were.”” [Emily Giffin](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/emily-giffin/) ## About This Quote This interpretation was drafted with AI assistance. It is one reading of the quote, not the author's own explanation. A child’s identity can be shaped by loving explanations, even when the truth about birth parents is hidden, offering a sense of purpose despite uncertainty. **In simple terms:** Loving explanations can give purpose despite unknown origins. Key Takeaway Embrace the narrative given to you. Themes identity family acceptance Mood reflective hopeful Type personal inspirational When to use this quote - adoption counseling - family therapy - personal reflection - storytelling - parental guidance Key Concepts psychology narrative identity Questions to Reflect On - How does the story you’re told affect your self‑image? - Can you honor both the story and the unknown? 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