--- title: "Meaning & Key Takeaway of: Josh: \"Are you really going to sit there…" description: "\"“Josh: \"Are you really going to sit there and pretend that I don't exist?\" Shel: \"I'm not pretending you don't exist. In fact, I am very aware you are ..." image: "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/799/ella-frank-1142_ignoring_josh-are-you-really-going-to-sit-there-a_204813.jpg" --- # Josh: "Are you really going to sit there and pretend that… ![“Josh: "Are you really going to sit there and pretend that I don't exist?" Shel: "I'm not pretending you don't exist. In fact, I am very aware you are right there. I am pointedly ignoring you.” quote by Ella Frank](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/799/ella-frank-1142_ignoring_josh-are-you-really-going-to-sit-there-a_204813.jpg) [Download](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/799/ella-frank-1142_ignoring_josh-are-you-really-going-to-sit-there-a_204813.jpg) [Open image](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/799/ella-frank-1142_ignoring_josh-are-you-really-going-to-sit-there-a_204813.jpg) > ““Josh: "Are you really going to sit there and pretend that I don't exist?" Shel: "I'm not pretending you don't exist. In fact, I am very aware you are right there. I am pointedly ignoring you.”” [Ella Frank](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/ella-frank/) ## About This Quote This interpretation was drafted with AI assistance. It is one reading of the quote, not the author's own explanation. A character acknowledges another's presence but deliberately chooses to ignore them, highlighting selective attention and emotional avoidance. **In simple terms:** Someone is noticed but ignored on purpose. Key Takeaway Recognize when you are ignoring someone. Themes communication avoidance attention Mood tense reflective Type dialogue observational When to use this quote - relationships - workplace - family gatherings - online interactions Key Concepts psychology social dynamics Questions to Reflect On - Why do we ignore people we see? - What are the costs of selective attention? A Different Perspective Ignoring can damage trust and deepen conflict. ★ ★ ★ ★ ★ No ratings yet [Exist Shel](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/about/exist-shel-2129525/) [Ignoring](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/about/ignoring/) [Pointedly Ignoring](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/about/pointedly-ignoring-2129524/) [Shel Pretending](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/about/shel-pretending-2129523/) [Sit Pretend](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/about/sit-pretend-1173666/) ## Related quotes > [So I'll just sit here and pretend I'm okay when really, nothing is right, I'm breaking down inside.](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/anonymous/so-i-ll-just-sit-here-and-pretend-i-m-okay-when-really-nothing-is/) [Anonymous](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/anonymous/) > [Now we can sit here and pretend like the feelings you have are nonexistent. but its so obvious; youre dying inside to be my…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/travis-mccoy/now-we-can-sit-here-and-pretend-like-the-feelings-you-have-are/) [Travis McCoy](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/travis-mccoy/) > [I'm not gonna sit and pretend I'm hard as nails.](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/nicola-roberts/i-m-not-gonna-sit-and-pretend-i-m-hard-as-nails/) [Nicola Roberts](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/nicola-roberts/) > [You sit there and pretend like nothing ever happened. You look at me like you dont even care, You smile with your friends and…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/anonymous/you-sit-there-and-pretend-like-nothing-ever-happened-you-look-at-me/) [Anonymous](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/anonymous/) > [I'm not going to ask musicians to sit there and pretend to play. It feels insulting to the musicians to me.](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/chris-stapleton/i-m-not-going-to-ask-musicians-to-sit-there-and-pretend-to-play-it/) [Chris Stapleton](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/chris-stapleton/) > [I'm focused on my future. I'm ignoring my past, apart from the bits that I draw from to help me focus on my future.](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/aldous-harding/i-m-focused-on-my-future-i-m-ignoring-my-past-apart-from-the-bits/) [Aldous Harding](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/aldous-harding/) > [It's unfair when we find ourselves loving those who don't care about us while ignoring those who truly care and love us.](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/terry-mark/it-s-unfair-when-we-find-ourselves-loving-those-who-don-t-care-about/) [Terry Mark](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/terry-mark/) > [I am not ignoring you, just trying to reduce my expectations.](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/nishan-panwar/i-am-not-ignoring-you-just-trying-to-reduce-my-expectations/) [Nishan Panwar](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/nishan-panwar/) > [In Holland I have seen well-meaning, principled people blinded by multiculturalism, overwhelmed by the imperative to be sensitive and respectful of immigrant culture, while…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/ayaan-hirsi-ali/in-holland-i-have-seen-well-meaning-principled-people-blinded-by/) [Ayaan Hirsi Ali](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/ayaan-hirsi-ali/) > [You can't delete people out of your life . Forgetting them is hard and ignoring them doesn't work.](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/anonymous/you-can-t-delete-people-out-of-your-life-forgetting-them-is-hard-and/) [Anonymous](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/anonymous/) > [When someone starts Ignoring you, just back off without staying there with them Just to know the reason for avoiding..](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/vishak/when-someone-starts-ignoring-you-just-back-off-without-staying-there/) [Vishak](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/vishak/) > [By ignoring tomorrow, we undermine today.](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/jamais-cascio/by-ignoring-tomorrow-we-undermine-today/) [Jamais Cascio](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/jamais-cascio/) > [I hate it when someone says they are not ignoring you but yet they are not talking to you.](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/nikhil-saluja/i-hate-it-when-someone-says-they-are-not-ignoring-you-but-yet-they/) [Nikhil Saluja](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/nikhil-saluja/) > [“I tried to leave you alone, Fitz. To find what peace you could, even if it excluded me from your life.” Ten years ago,…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/robin-hobb/i-tried-to-leave-you-alone-fitz-to-find-what-peace-you-could-even-if/) [Robin Hobb](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/robin-hobb/) > [Destroy gossip by ignoring it](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/mariane-corbito/destroy-gossip-by-ignoring-it/) [Mariane Corbito](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/mariane-corbito/) ## More by Ella Frank > [“Logan thought about it for a moment and then asked, “How about Whipped?” Tate’s eyes opened and he looked slightly shocked. “I know I’ve…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/ella-frank/logan-thought-about-it-for-a-moment-and-then-asked-how-about-whipped/) [Ella Frank](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/ella-frank/) > [“You look like someone who’s discovered a new species of human”](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/ella-frank/you-look-like-someone-who-s-discovered-a-new-species-of-human/) [Ella Frank](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/ella-frank/) > [“Damn. You’re just begging for it today, aren’t you?” Tate’s cheeks flushed at the words, and his sex-hazed eyes were heavy as he slowly…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/ella-frank/damn-you-re-just-begging-for-it-today-aren-t-you-tate-s-cheeks/) [Ella Frank](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/ella-frank/) > [“Tell me, do you have Tate waiting naked for me in my office? Because that would really be the perfect way to thank me…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/ella-frank/tell-me-do-you-have-tate-waiting-naked-for-me-in-my-office-because/) [Ella Frank](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/ella-frank/) > [“I want to see you again,” I told him. “I want you to see me.” “Trust me, I do see you,” he stressed. “You’re…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/ella-frank/i-want-to-see-you-again-i-told-him-i-want-you-to-see-me-trust-me-i-do/) [Ella Frank](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/ella-frank/) > [“Thank you. Thank you for raising my best friend. For raising the best man I have ever met.”](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/ella-frank/thank-you-thank-you-for-raising-my-best-friend-for-raising-the-best/) [Ella Frank](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/ella-frank/) > [“Suck me, Rachel. Put those sticky lips around my cock and suck it good.”](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/ella-frank/suck-me-rachel-put-those-sticky-lips-around-my-cock-and-suck-it-good/) [Ella Frank](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/ella-frank/) > [“I believe in fate and I believe you were supposed to walk into my life, so Mason could walk into yours.”](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/ella-frank/i-believe-in-fate-and-i-believe-you-were-supposed-to-walk-into-my/) [Ella Frank](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/ella-frank/) > [“Thank you for my surprise. Now, I won't be able to eat a caramel without thinking about being balls deep inside your sweet, warm…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/ella-frank/thank-you-for-my-surprise-now-i-won-t-be-able-to-eat-a-caramel/) [Ella Frank](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/ella-frank/) > [“She is the mystery that is wrapped tightly around the man I am trying so desperately to unravel.”](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/ella-frank/she-is-the-mystery-that-is-wrapped-tightly-around-the-man-i-am-trying/) [Ella Frank](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/ella-frank/) > [“Addison's mouth was sweet, and her body..it was fucking sinful.”](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/ella-frank/addison-s-mouth-was-sweet-and-her-body-it-was-fucking-sinful/) [Ella Frank](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/ella-frank/) > [“Ahh… So good, Tate,” Logan said as he jacked his hips forward, his dick sliding through Tate’s fist. “You’re so sexy,” Tate whispered. “The…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/ella-frank/ahh-so-good-tate-logan-said-as-he-jacked-his-hips-forward-his-dick/) [Ella Frank](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/ella-frank/) > [“I don't know what it is you see, and I don't know what you're feeling, but when you bring her between us, something happens…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/ella-frank/i-don-t-know-what-it-is-you-see-and-i-don-t-know-what-you-re-feeling/) [Ella Frank](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/ella-frank/) > [“And if you want to scream her name out when my cock is fucking you, you scream it, right into my ear.”](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/ella-frank/and-if-you-want-to-scream-her-name-out-when-my-cock-is-fucking-you/) [Ella Frank](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/ella-frank/) > [“Why on earth had I agreed to this? Oh, that's right. He suckered me into it with his manipulating words and those damn dimples.”](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/ella-frank/why-on-earth-had-i-agreed-to-this-oh-that-s-right-he-suckered-me-into/) [Ella Frank](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/ella-frank/) [Explore all 282 Ella Frank quotes ](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/ella-frank/) ## More Ignoring quotes > [Destroy gossip by ignoring it](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/mariane-corbito/destroy-gossip-by-ignoring-it/) [Mariane Corbito](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/mariane-corbito/) > [“I tried to leave you alone, Fitz. To find what peace you could, even if it excluded me from your life.” Ten years ago,…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/robin-hobb/i-tried-to-leave-you-alone-fitz-to-find-what-peace-you-could-even-if/) [Robin Hobb](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/robin-hobb/) > [I hate it when someone says they are not ignoring you but yet they are not talking to you.](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/nikhil-saluja/i-hate-it-when-someone-says-they-are-not-ignoring-you-but-yet-they/) [Nikhil Saluja](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/nikhil-saluja/) > [By ignoring tomorrow, we undermine today.](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/jamais-cascio/by-ignoring-tomorrow-we-undermine-today/) [Jamais Cascio](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/jamais-cascio/) > [When someone starts Ignoring you, just back off without staying there with them Just to know the reason for avoiding..](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/vishak/when-someone-starts-ignoring-you-just-back-off-without-staying-there/) [Vishak](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/vishak/) > [You can't delete people out of your life . Forgetting them is hard and ignoring them doesn't work.](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/anonymous/you-can-t-delete-people-out-of-your-life-forgetting-them-is-hard-and/) [Anonymous](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/anonymous/) > [In Holland I have seen well-meaning, principled people blinded by multiculturalism, overwhelmed by the imperative to be sensitive and respectful of immigrant culture, while…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/ayaan-hirsi-ali/in-holland-i-have-seen-well-meaning-principled-people-blinded-by/) [Ayaan Hirsi Ali](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/ayaan-hirsi-ali/) > [I am not ignoring you, just trying to reduce my expectations.](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/nishan-panwar/i-am-not-ignoring-you-just-trying-to-reduce-my-expectations/) [Nishan Panwar](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/nishan-panwar/) > [It's unfair when we find ourselves loving those who don't care about us while ignoring those who truly care and love us.](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/terry-mark/it-s-unfair-when-we-find-ourselves-loving-those-who-don-t-care-about/) [Terry Mark](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/terry-mark/) > [I'm focused on my future. I'm ignoring my past, apart from the bits that I draw from to help me focus on my future.](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/aldous-harding/i-m-focused-on-my-future-i-m-ignoring-my-past-apart-from-the-bits/) [Aldous Harding](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/aldous-harding/) > [While you're ignoring me, someone else is begging for my attention.](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/anonymous/while-you-re-ignoring-me-someone-else-is-begging-for-my-attention/) [Anonymous](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/anonymous/) > [I'm not ignoring you I just want to see if you can enough to make an effort.](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/tine/i-m-not-ignoring-you-i-just-want-to-see-if-you-can-enough-to-make-an/) [Tine](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/tine/) > [Law 36: Disdain things you cannot have: Ignoring them is the best revenge.](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/the-48-laws-of-power/law-36-disdain-things-you-cannot-have-ignoring-them-is-the-best/) [The 48 Laws Of Power](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/the-48-laws-of-power/) > [Pretty girls behave best when you ignore them. 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