--- title: "Meaning & Key Takeaway of: Is that it?\" he asked. \"is what it?\" I…" description: "\"“Is that it?\" he asked. \"is what it?\" I replied. \"You and me, done and dusted?\" \"Was there ever a you and me?\" I asked \"I thought there was a little fr..." image: "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/a91/dorothy-koomson-8017_asked_is-that-it-he-asked-is-what-it-i-replied_2816843.png" --- # Is that it?" he asked. "is what it?" I replied. "You and… ![“Is that it?" he asked. "is what it?" I replied. "You and me, done and dusted?" "Was there ever a you and me?" I asked "I thought there was a little frisson earlier. Something we could work on." "Frisson? You mean, you taking the piss out of me and me saying you were rubbish? That was a frisson? I…” quote by Dorothy Koomson](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/a91/dorothy-koomson-8017_asked_is-that-it-he-asked-is-what-it-i-replied_2816843.png) [Download](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/a91/dorothy-koomson-8017_asked_is-that-it-he-asked-is-what-it-i-replied_2816843.png) [Open image](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/a91/dorothy-koomson-8017_asked_is-that-it-he-asked-is-what-it-i-replied_2816843.png) > ““Is that it?" he asked. "is what it?" I replied. "You and me, done and dusted?" "Was there ever a you and me?" I asked "I thought there was a little frisson earlier. Something we could work on." "Frisson? You mean, you taking the piss out of me and me saying you were rubbish? That was a frisson? I feel really sorry for the women you go out with." "So this," he moved his forefinger in the space between us, "isn't going anywhere?" "Where did you think it would go?" "To dinner or a drink?" "Jack, I'm sorry to say I don't particularly like you. Your clearly over-inflated sense of entitlement keeps bringing out the not very nice side of me. See? I would never normally say that to someone - and believe me, I meet a lot of odious people on a daily basis so I do know how to keep it in - but with you, I can't help it. So, no, I don't see this going anywhere.' He studied me silently, his eyebrows knitted slightly together as his moss-green eyes held mine. "At least tell me your full name." "Why?" "So I can forever remember the one person who didn't fall for my charm, or lack thereof.”” [Dorothy Koomson](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/dorothy-koomson/) ## About This Quote This interpretation was drafted with AI assistance. It is one reading of the quote, not the author's own explanation. A dialogue exposing mutual disappointment and the realization that a relationship lacks future potential, highlighting honesty and self‑preservation. **In simple terms:** Two people recognize their connection is futile and end it truthfully. Key Takeaway Accept reality and walk away when chemistry fails. Themes relationships honesty self‑worth disillusionment Mood cynical reflective detached Type dialogue conversational realistic When to use this quote - dating - friendship - breakup conversations - self‑reflection Key Concepts entitlement communication breakdown personal boundaries Questions to Reflect On - What signs indicated the relationship was unsustainable? - How can honesty protect self‑esteem? 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