--- title: "Meaning & Key Takeaway of: It's not that I am \"above\" feeling…" description: "\"“It's not that I am \"above\" feeling hatred. It's that I make the choice whether to yield to it or not. Hatred keeps a person with you, and the last thi..." image: "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/03a/donna-lynn-hope-1623_bitterness_it-s-not-that-i-am-above-feeling-hatred_790995.jpg" --- # It's not that I am "above" feeling hatred. It's that I… ![“It's not that I am "above" feeling hatred. It's that I make the choice whether to yield to it or not. Hatred keeps a person with you, and the last thing I want with me in my thoughts is someone who doesn't deserve to be there.” quote by Donna Lynn Hope](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/03a/donna-lynn-hope-1623_bitterness_it-s-not-that-i-am-above-feeling-hatred_790995.jpg) [Download](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/03a/donna-lynn-hope-1623_bitterness_it-s-not-that-i-am-above-feeling-hatred_790995.jpg) [Open image](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/03a/donna-lynn-hope-1623_bitterness_it-s-not-that-i-am-above-feeling-hatred_790995.jpg) > ““It's not that I am "above" feeling hatred. It's that I make the choice whether to yield to it or not. Hatred keeps a person with you, and the last thing I want with me in my thoughts is someone who doesn't deserve to be there.”” [Donna Lynn Hope](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/donna-lynn-hope/) ## About This Quote This interpretation was drafted with AI assistance. It is one reading of the quote, not the author's own explanation. Highlights choice in responding to hatred, emphasizing personal agency over emotional dominance. **In simple terms:** Choose whether to yield to hatred. Key Takeaway Practice conscious emotional choices. Themes emotional control choice hatred Mood thoughtful determined Type psychological self-help When to use this quote - conflict resolution - personal growth - mental health Key Concepts psychology mindfulness Questions to Reflect On - How can you strengthen your ability to choose? - What strategies help avoid being consumed by hatred? 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