--- title: "Meaning & Key Takeaway of: What great gravity is this that drew my…" description: "\"“What great gravity is this that drew my soul towards yours? What great force, that though I went falsely, went kicking, went disguising myself to earn..." image: "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/8c4/donald-miller-607_like-love_what-great-gravity-is-this-that-drew-my_1944528.jpg" --- # What great gravity is this that drew my soul towards… ![“What great gravity is this that drew my soul towards yours? What great force, that though I went falsely, went kicking, went disguising myself to earn your love, also disguised, to earn your keeping, your resting, your staying, your will fleshed into mine, rasped by a slowly revealed truth, the…” quote by Donald Miller](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/8c4/donald-miller-607_like-love_what-great-gravity-is-this-that-drew-my_1944528.jpg) [Download](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/8c4/donald-miller-607_like-love_what-great-gravity-is-this-that-drew-my_1944528.jpg) [Open image](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/8c4/donald-miller-607_like-love_what-great-gravity-is-this-that-drew-my_1944528.jpg) > ““What great gravity is this that drew my soul towards yours? What great force, that though I went falsely, went kicking, went disguising myself to earn your love, also disguised, to earn your keeping, your resting, your staying, your will fleshed into mine, rasped by a slowly revealed truth, the barter of my soul, the soul that I fear, the soul that I loathe, the soul that: if you will love, I will love. I will redeem you, if you will redeem me? Is this our purpose, you and I together to pacify each other, to lead each other toward the lie that we are good, that we are noble, that we need not redemption, save the one that you and I invented of our own clay? I am not scared of you, my love, I am scared of me. I went looking, I wrote out a list, I drew an image, I bled a poem of you. You were pretty and my friends believed I was worthy of you. You were clever, but I was smarter, perhaps the only one smarter, the only one able to lead you. You see, love, I did not love you, I loved me. And you were only a tool that I used to fix myself, to fool myself, to redeem myself. And though I have taught you to lay your lily hand in mine, I walk alone, for I cannot talk to you, lest you talk it back to me, lest I believe that I am not worthy, not deserving, not redeemed. I want desperately for you to be my friend. But you are not my friend; you have slid up warmly to the man I wanted to be, the man I pretended to be, and I was your Jesus and, you were mine. Should I show you who I am, we may crumble. I am not scared of you my love, I am scared of me. I want to be known and loved anyway. Can you do this? I trust by your easy breathing that your are human like me, that you are fallen like me, that you are lonely, like me. My love, do I know you? What is this great gravity that pulls us so painfully toward each other? Why do we not connect? Will we be forever in fleshing this out? And how will we with words, narrow words, come into the knowing of each other?”” [Donald Miller](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/donald-miller/) ## About This Quote This interpretation was drafted with AI assistance. It is one reading of the quote, not the author's own explanation. The speaker reflects on love as a self‑centered exchange, fearing their own flaws more than the partner, and questioning whether love can be genuine or merely a tool for self‑redemption. **In simple terms:** Love is tangled with ego and fear of self. Key Takeaway Recognize love’s self‑interest and seek authentic connection. Themes love ego self‑reflection redemption identity Mood conflicted introspective longing Type philosophical literary When to use this quote - therapy sessions - personal journaling - relationship counseling - creative writing - mindful dialogue Key Concepts psychology existentialism relationships Questions to Reflect On - Do you love yourself before loving others? - How can you separate self‑worth from another’s validation? 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