--- title: "Meaning & Key Takeaway of: I had one last try. \"Does it bother you…" description: "\"I had one last try. \"Does it bother you that I'm not a virgin?\" He hesitated a moment before answering. \"Well, no,\" he said slowly, \"so long as it does..." image: "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/da9/diana-gabaldon-185_behinds_i-had-one-last-try-does-it-bother-you-th_1400342.jpg" --- # I had one last try. "Does it bother you that I'm not a… ![“I had one last try. "Does it bother you that I'm not a virgin?" He hesitated a moment before answering. "Well, no," he said slowly, "so long as it doesna bother you that I am." He grinned at my drop-jawed expression, and backed toward the door. "Reckon one of us should know what they're doing," he…” quote by Diana Gabaldon](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/da9/diana-gabaldon-185_behinds_i-had-one-last-try-does-it-bother-you-th_1400342.jpg) [Download](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/da9/diana-gabaldon-185_behinds_i-had-one-last-try-does-it-bother-you-th_1400342.jpg) [Open image](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/da9/diana-gabaldon-185_behinds_i-had-one-last-try-does-it-bother-you-th_1400342.jpg) > “I had one last try. "Does it bother you that I'm not a virgin?" He hesitated a moment before answering. "Well, no," he said slowly, "so long as it doesna bother you that I am." He grinned at my drop-jawed expression, and backed toward the door. "Reckon one of us should know what they're doing," he said. The door closed softly behind him; clearly the courtship was over.” [Diana Gabaldon](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/diana-gabaldon/) ## About This Quote This interpretation was drafted with AI assistance. It is one reading of the quote, not the author's own explanation. A brief, tense exchange reveals a moment of sexual negotiation and the end of a courtship. **In simple terms:** A short conversation ends a budding romance. Key Takeaway Recognize when intimacy stalls. Themes courtship sexuality communication Mood tense reflective Type narrative dialogue When to use this quote - Dating - first sexual encounter - relationship boundaries Key Concepts Power dynamics intimacy social expectations Questions to Reflect On - What signals indicate a relationship is ending? - How can honest communication improve intimacy? 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