--- title: "Meaning & Key Takeaway of: Does it bother you that I'm not a…" description: "\"“Does it bother you that I'm not a virgin?\" He hesitated a moment before answering. \"Well, no,\" he said slowly, \"so long as it doesna bother you that I..." image: "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/83f/diana-gabaldon-185_time_does-it-bother-you-that-i-m-not-a-virgin_1985515.jpg" --- # Does it bother you that I'm not a virgin?" He hesitated a… ![“Does it bother you that I'm not a virgin?" He hesitated a moment before answering. "Well, no," he said slowly, "so long as it doesna bother you that I am." He grinned at my drop-jawed expression, and backed toward the door. "Reckon one of us should know what they're doing.” quote by Diana Gabaldon](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/83f/diana-gabaldon-185_time_does-it-bother-you-that-i-m-not-a-virgin_1985515.jpg) [Download](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/83f/diana-gabaldon-185_time_does-it-bother-you-that-i-m-not-a-virgin_1985515.jpg) [Open image](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/83f/diana-gabaldon-185_time_does-it-bother-you-that-i-m-not-a-virgin_1985515.jpg) > ““Does it bother you that I'm not a virgin?" He hesitated a moment before answering. "Well, no," he said slowly, "so long as it doesna bother you that I am." He grinned at my drop-jawed expression, and backed toward the door. "Reckon one of us should know what they're doing.”” [Diana Gabaldon](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/diana-gabaldon/) ## About This Quote This interpretation was drafted with AI assistance. It is one reading of the quote, not the author's own explanation. A character questions whether sexual experience matters, highlighting mutual acceptance and confidence in relationships. **In simple terms:** Questioning virginity and acceptance in love. Key Takeaway Embrace honesty and mutual respect. Themes relationships sexuality confidence Mood playful flirtatious Type dialogue conversational When to use this quote - dating - first encounters - personal boundaries Key Concepts intimacy self‑acceptance Questions to Reflect On - How does honesty affect intimacy? - What role does confidence play in relationships? A Different Perspective May overlook deeper emotional compatibility. ★ ★ ★ ★ ★ No ratings yet [Time](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/about/time/) ## Related quotes > [“I flapped my hand, dismissing the matter of outlawry as a minor consideration, compared to the whole monstrous idea. 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