--- title: "Meaning & Key Takeaway of: As far as boyfriends were concerned, I…" description: "\"“As far as boyfriends were concerned, I dated, had a lot of meaningless relationships and that was pretty much it. It was really hard to find a decent ..." image: "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/ce0/danka-v-37296_beneath-the-surface_as-far-as-boyfriends-were-concerned-i-da_3009215.jpg" --- # As far as boyfriends were concerned, I dated, had a lot of… ![“As far as boyfriends were concerned, I dated, had a lot of meaningless relationships and that was pretty much it. It was really hard to find a decent guy. A guy that would be worthwhile. They were all great in the beginning, sweet and caring, sensitive and romantic. But if you scratched deeper…” quote by Danka V](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/ce0/danka-v-37296_beneath-the-surface_as-far-as-boyfriends-were-concerned-i-da_3009215.jpg) [Download](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/ce0/danka-v-37296_beneath-the-surface_as-far-as-boyfriends-were-concerned-i-da_3009215.jpg) [Open image](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/ce0/danka-v-37296_beneath-the-surface_as-far-as-boyfriends-were-concerned-i-da_3009215.jpg) > ““As far as boyfriends were concerned, I dated, had a lot of meaningless relationships and that was pretty much it. It was really hard to find a decent guy. A guy that would be worthwhile. They were all great in the beginning, sweet and caring, sensitive and romantic. But if you scratched deeper, you would find NOTHING. Plenty of nothing. Sometimes one might even be surprised just how much nothing there was, but not me. No. Somehow, I had learned to brace myself for the worst. But, to be honest, it wasn’t always the case. Some of the guys weren’t that empty beneath the surface, some even proved to be quite the opposite. True-Prince-charming kind of guys... And their girlfriends! They were even more charming princesses when they found out. Well, I guess we all have our little flaws... So, after some time, I was finally coming to terms with the genuine truth that there was no such thing as a perfect boyfriend. On the other hand, Melina was waiting for her prince on a white horse, and was honestly expecting him to show up single. No matter how many times I’d tried to convince her that all a girl gets from that prince-on-a-white-horse fairytale is actually and inevitably a horse and no prince, she never believed that.”” [Danka V](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/danka-v/) ## About This Quote This interpretation was drafted with AI assistance. It is one reading of the quote, not the author's own explanation. Repeated shallow relationships teach that perfect partners don’t exist; acceptance of flaws leads to realistic expectations. **In simple terms:** No one is perfect; accept imperfections. Key Takeaway Embrace realistic expectations. Themes relationships expectations self‑growth disillusionment Mood thoughtful hopeful Type personal reflective When to use this quote - dating experiences - friendship circles - self‑reflection Key Concepts Idealization personal boundaries Questions to Reflect On - What qualities truly matter in a partner? - How do you cope with disappointment? 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