--- title: "Meaning & Key Takeaway of: As far as I can figure, the way that it…" description: "\"“As far as I can figure, the way that it works is this: everyone has something that happened to them. The thing that we each carry. And you can see it ..." image: "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/fe9/daniel-macivor-121387_communication_as-far-as-i-can-figure-the-way-that-it-w_2251594.jpg" --- # As far as I can figure, the way that it works is this… ![“As far as I can figure, the way that it works is this: everyone has something that happened to them. The thing that we each carry. And you can see it in people, if you look. See it in the way someone walks, in the way someone takes a compliment, sometimes you can just see it in someone’s eyes. In…” quote by Daniel Macivor](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/fe9/daniel-macivor-121387_communication_as-far-as-i-can-figure-the-way-that-it-w_2251594.jpg) [Download](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/fe9/daniel-macivor-121387_communication_as-far-as-i-can-figure-the-way-that-it-w_2251594.jpg) [Open image](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/fe9/daniel-macivor-121387_communication_as-far-as-i-can-figure-the-way-that-it-w_2251594.jpg) > ““As far as I can figure, the way that it works is this: everyone has something that happened to them. The thing that we each carry. And you can see it in people, if you look. See it in the way someone walks, in the way someone takes a compliment, sometimes you can just see it in someone’s eyes. In one moment of desperation, of fear, in one quick moment you can see that thing that happened. Everyone has it. The thing that keeps you up at night, or makes you not trust people, or stops love. The thing that hurts. And to stop it, to stop the hurt, you have to turn it into a story. And not just a story you play over and over for yourself, but a story that you tell. A story’s not a story unless you tell it. And once you tell it, it’s not yours anymore. You give it away. And once you give it away, it’s not something that hurts you anymore, it’s something that helps everyone who hears it. It’s the kind of thing that’s hard to explain. It’s probably best if we just show you how it works.”” [Daniel Macivor](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/daniel-macivor/) ## About This Quote This interpretation was drafted with AI assistance. It is one reading of the quote, not the author's own explanation. Everyone carries personal pain; sharing it as a story transforms hurt into collective healing. **In simple terms:** Storytelling heals personal wounds. Key Takeaway Tell your story to release pain. Themes pain storytelling healing trust empathy Mood empathetic reflective Type narrative therapeutic inspirational When to use this quote - counseling - support groups - creative writing Key Concepts psychology narrative therapy social connection Questions to Reflect On - What story could you share to help yourself? - How does listening to others' stories affect you? 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