--- title: "Meaning & Key Takeaway of: But, Dad…” She hesitated. “It will mean…" description: "\"“But, Dad…” She hesitated. “It will mean raising me all over again. It means suffering through my childhood for a third time. No parent should be asked..." image: "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/d54/dan-simmons-968_children_but-dad-she-hesitated-it-will-mean-raisi_1032186.jpg" --- # But, Dad…” She hesitated. “It will mean raising me all… ![“But, Dad…” She hesitated. “It will mean raising me all over again. It means suffering through my childhood for a third time. No parent should be asked to do that.” Sol managed a smile. “No parent would refuse that, Rachel.” quote by Dan Simmons](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/d54/dan-simmons-968_children_but-dad-she-hesitated-it-will-mean-raisi_1032186.jpg) [Download](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/d54/dan-simmons-968_children_but-dad-she-hesitated-it-will-mean-raisi_1032186.jpg) [Open image](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/d54/dan-simmons-968_children_but-dad-she-hesitated-it-will-mean-raisi_1032186.jpg) > ““But, Dad…” She hesitated. “It will mean raising me all over again. It means suffering through my childhood for a third time. No parent should be asked to do that.” Sol managed a smile. “No parent would refuse that, Rachel.”” [Dan Simmons](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/dan-simmons/) ## About This Quote This interpretation was drafted with AI assistance. It is one reading of the quote, not the author's own explanation. A child fears burdening a parent with the trauma of their own childhood, yet love compels the parent to accept the sacrifice. **In simple terms:** A child worries about hurting a parent, but love outweighs fear. Key Takeaway Embrace love despite fear of burden. Themes family parenting trauma love Mood empathetic reflective Type narrative emotional When to use this quote - parent-child counseling - grief therapy - support groups - family discussions Key Concepts intergenerational trauma acceptance sacrifice Questions to Reflect On - How can families heal repeated cycles of trauma? - What boundaries protect both parent and child? 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