--- title: "Meaning & Key Takeaway of: I think I have to take issue with you on…" description: "\"“I think I have to take issue with you on that,” the Archbishop responded. “The people who go around becoming bullies are people who have a massive sen..." image: "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/4e0/dalai-lama-xiv-1700_brothers-and-sisters_i-think-i-have-to-take-issue-with-you-on_1928800.jpg" --- # I think I have to take issue with you on that,” the… ![“I think I have to take issue with you on that,” the Archbishop responded. “The people who go around becoming bullies are people who have a massive sense of insecurity, who want to prove that they are somebody, often because they did not get enough love.” “I think, yes, circumstances, environment…” quote by Dalai Lama XIV](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/4e0/dalai-lama-xiv-1700_brothers-and-sisters_i-think-i-have-to-take-issue-with-you-on_1928800.jpg) [Download](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/4e0/dalai-lama-xiv-1700_brothers-and-sisters_i-think-i-have-to-take-issue-with-you-on_1928800.jpg) [Open image](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/4e0/dalai-lama-xiv-1700_brothers-and-sisters_i-think-i-have-to-take-issue-with-you-on_1928800.jpg) > ““I think I have to take issue with you on that,” the Archbishop responded. “The people who go around becoming bullies are people who have a massive sense of insecurity, who want to prove that they are somebody, often because they did not get enough love.” “I think, yes, circumstances, environment, education all matter,” the Dalai Lama replied. “Especially today; there is not much focus on inner values in education. Then, instead of inner values, we become self-centered—always thinking: I, I, I. A self-centered attitude brings a sense of insecurity and fear. Distrust. Too much fear brings frustration. Too much frustration brings anger. So that’s the psychology, the system of mind, of emotion, which creates a chain reaction. With a self-centered attitude, you become distanced from others, then distrust, then feel insecure, then fear, then anxiety, then frustration, then anger, then violence.” It was fascinating to hear the Dalai Lama describe the process of mind that leads to fear, alienation, and ultimately to violence. I pointed out that so often our parenting in the West is too focused on our children, and their needs alone, rather than helping them to learn to care for others. The Dalai Lama responded, “Yes, there is too much self-centeredness also among parents—‘my children, my children.’ That’s biased love. We need unbiased love toward entire humanity, entire sentient beings, irrespective of what their attitude is toward us. So your enemies are still human brothers and sisters, so they also deserve our love, our respect, our affection. That’s unbiased love. You might have to resist your enemies’ actions, but you can love them as brothers and sisters. Only we human beings can do this with our human intelligence. Other animals cannot do this.”” [Dalai Lama XIV](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/dalai-lama-xiv/) ## About This Quote This interpretation was drafted with AI assistance. It is one reading of the quote, not the author's own explanation. The quote outlines how self‑centered attitudes stem from insecurity, leading to a cascade of negative emotions that can culminate in violence, and stresses the need for unbiased, universal love. **In simple terms:** Self‑centeredness causes fear and anger, ending in violence; love everyone equally. Key Takeaway Cultivate unbiased love and empathy for all. Themes psychology emotions violence compassion self‑centeredness Mood reflective hopeful serious Type philosophical motivational inspirational When to use this quote - parenting - education - community building - conflict resolution - personal development Key Concepts insecurity fear anger unbiased love empathy Questions to Reflect On - How can we foster unbiased love in daily life? - What steps break the cycle from insecurity to violence? 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