--- title: "Meaning & Key Takeaway of: In the beginning [in older days], if I…" description: "\"“In the beginning [in older days], if I were to say something that hurt the other person, I would turn it around by telling him, ‘Dear brother, my mind..." image: "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/f4e/dada-bhagwan-31_brother_in-the-beginning-in-older-days-if-i-were_3041926.jpg" --- # In the beginning \[in older days\], if I were to say… ![“In the beginning [in older days], if I were to say something that hurt the other person, I would turn it around by telling him, ‘Dear brother, my mind has been this way from the start!!!’ So the other person then becomes happy.” quote by Dada Bhagwan](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/f4e/dada-bhagwan-31_brother_in-the-beginning-in-older-days-if-i-were_3041926.jpg) [Download](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/f4e/dada-bhagwan-31_brother_in-the-beginning-in-older-days-if-i-were_3041926.jpg) [Open image](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/f4e/dada-bhagwan-31_brother_in-the-beginning-in-older-days-if-i-were_3041926.jpg) > ““In the beginning \[in older days\], if I were to say something that hurt the other person, I would turn it around by telling him, ‘Dear brother, my mind has been this way from the start!!!’ So the other person then becomes happy.”” [Dada Bhagwan](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/dada-bhagwan/) ## About This Quote This interpretation was drafted with AI assistance. It is one reading of the quote, not the author's own explanation. The speaker advises reframing hurtful remarks by attributing them to a shared human condition, which calms the other person. **In simple terms:** Explain conflict as a common human trait to ease tension. Key Takeaway Use empathy to defuse conflict. Themes communication empathy conflict resolution Mood calm thoughtful Type philosophical practical When to use this quote - family disputes - workplace disagreements - customer service - mediations Key Concepts Shared humanity emotional intelligence Questions to Reflect On - Can this approach work in all cultures? - What are its limits? 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