--- title: "Meaning & Key Takeaway of: If your son has grown up and talks back…" description: "\"“If your son has grown up and talks back at you, realize that he is your ‘thermometer’ (gauge). Where can you get a ‘thermometer’ to gauge how much dha..." image: "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/fe9/dada-bhagwan-31_buddhism_if-your-son-has-grown-up-and-talks-back_1360586.jpg" --- # If your son has grown up and talks back at you, realize… ![“If your son has grown up and talks back at you, realize that he is your ‘thermometer’ (gauge). Where can you get a ‘thermometer’ to gauge how much dharma (virtues) has resulted within you? When you have a ‘thermometer’ at home, you do not have to go out” quote by Dada Bhagwan](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/fe9/dada-bhagwan-31_buddhism_if-your-son-has-grown-up-and-talks-back_1360586.jpg) [Download](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/fe9/dada-bhagwan-31_buddhism_if-your-son-has-grown-up-and-talks-back_1360586.jpg) [Open image](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/fe9/dada-bhagwan-31_buddhism_if-your-son-has-grown-up-and-talks-back_1360586.jpg) > ““If your son has grown up and talks back at you, realize that he is your ‘thermometer’ (gauge). Where can you get a ‘thermometer’ to gauge how much dharma (virtues) has resulted within you? When you have a ‘thermometer’ at home, you do not have to go out”” [Dada Bhagwan](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/dada-bhagwan/) ## About This Quote This interpretation was drafted with AI assistance. It is one reading of the quote, not the author's own explanation. A child reflects your inner moral state; having a close, honest gauge at home helps you assess your virtue without external validation. **In simple terms:** A child shows your inner virtue; use them as a moral gauge. Key Takeaway Cultivate honesty and self‑reflection. Themes morality self‑assessment family relationships spiritual growth Mood contemplative inspirational Type spiritual ethical When to use this quote - parenting - personal meditation - ethical decision‑making - spiritual practice Key Concepts inner virtue self‑knowledge ethical development Questions to Reflect On - How can you develop internal moral measurement? - What role does family play in ethical growth? 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