--- title: "Meaning & Key Takeaway of: I wanted to feel sorry for him, or…" description: "\"“I wanted to feel sorry for him, or disgusted by him, or something definitive. But I wasn't, or couldn't. His jacket looked nice on him, his linen pant..." image: "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/ef8/dabney-lazar-229914_feel-sorry_i-wanted-to-feel-sorry-for-him-or-disgus_776792.jpg" --- # I wanted to feel sorry for him, or disgusted by him, or… ![“I wanted to feel sorry for him, or disgusted by him, or something definitive. But I wasn't, or couldn't. His jacket looked nice on him, his linen pants were clean and well-pressed, and his hair was really quite beautiful--a great brilliant shock of white.” quote by Dabney Lazar](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/ef8/dabney-lazar-229914_feel-sorry_i-wanted-to-feel-sorry-for-him-or-disgus_776792.jpg) [Download](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/ef8/dabney-lazar-229914_feel-sorry_i-wanted-to-feel-sorry-for-him-or-disgus_776792.jpg) [Open image](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/ef8/dabney-lazar-229914_feel-sorry_i-wanted-to-feel-sorry-for-him-or-disgus_776792.jpg) > ““I wanted to feel sorry for him, or disgusted by him, or something definitive. But I wasn't, or couldn't. His jacket looked nice on him, his linen pants were clean and well-pressed, and his hair was really quite beautiful--a great brilliant shock of white.”” Dabney Lazar ## About This Quote This interpretation was drafted with AI assistance. It is one reading of the quote, not the author's own explanation. The narrator observes a well‑dressed man, noting his appearance but feeling no strong emotions toward him. **In simple terms:** Observation without emotional attachment. Key Takeaway Notice details, stay objective. Themes observation detachment perception appearance neutrality Mood neutral detached Type descriptive observational When to use this quote - public spaces - fashion critique - personal reflection - social interaction - art criticism Key Concepts social perception visual detail emotional restraint Questions to Reflect On - Why does the narrator stay detached? - What does appearance reveal about identity? A Different Perspective Lack of empathy may seem cold. ★ ★ ★ ★ ★ No ratings yet ## Related quotes > [“And on top of everything, Mairelon hadn't even said she looked nice.”](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/patricia-c-wrede/and-on-top-of-everything-mairelon-hadn-t-even-said-she-looked-nice/) [Patricia C. 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