--- title: "Meaning & Key Takeaway of: I WANT her though, to take the same from…" description: "\"“I WANT her though, to take the same from me. She touches me as if I were herself, her own. She has not realized yet, that fearful thing, that I am the..." image: "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/3ac/d-h-lawrence-2-1397_every-man_i-want-her-though-to-take-the-same-from_32076.jpg" --- # I WANT her though, to take the same from me. She touches… ![“I WANT her though, to take the same from me. She touches me as if I were herself, her own. She has not realized yet, that fearful thing, that I am the other, she thinks we are all of one piece. It is painfully untrue. I want her to touch me at last, ah, on the root and quick of my darkness and…” quote by D.H. Lawrence](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/3ac/d-h-lawrence-2-1397_every-man_i-want-her-though-to-take-the-same-from_32076.jpg) [Download](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/3ac/d-h-lawrence-2-1397_every-man_i-want-her-though-to-take-the-same-from_32076.jpg) [Open image](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/3ac/d-h-lawrence-2-1397_every-man_i-want-her-though-to-take-the-same-from_32076.jpg) > ““I WANT her though, to take the same from me. She touches me as if I were herself, her own. She has not realized yet, that fearful thing, that I am the other, she thinks we are all of one piece. It is painfully untrue. I want her to touch me at last, ah, on the root and quick of my darkness and perish on me, as I have perished on her. Then, we shall be two and distinct, we shall have each our separate being. And that will be pure existence, real liberty. Till then, we are confused, a mixture, unresolved, unextricated one from the other. It is in pure, unutterable resolvedness, distinction of being, that one is free, not in mixing, merging, not in similarity. When she has put her hand on my secret, darkest sources, the darkest outgoings, when it has struck home to her, like a death, "this is \_him!\_" she has no part in it, no part whatever, it is the terrible \_other\_, when she knows the fearful \_other flesh\_, ah, dark- ness unfathomable and fearful, contiguous and concrete, when she is slain against me, and lies in a heap like one outside the house, when she passes away as I have passed away being pressed up against the \_other\_, then I shall be glad, I shall not be confused with her, I shall be cleared, distinct, single as if burnished in silver, having no adherence, no adhesion anywhere, one clear, burnished, isolated being, unique, and she also, pure, isolated, complete, two of us, unutterably distinguished, and in unutterable conjunction. Then we shall be free, freer than angels, ah, perfect. VIII AFTER that, there will only remain that all men detach themselves and become unique, that we are all detached, moving in freedom more than the angels, conditioned only by our own pure single being, having no laws but the laws of our own being. Every human being will then be like a flower, untrammelled. Every movement will be direct. Only to be will be such delight, we cover our faces when we think of it lest our faces betray us to some untimely fiend. Every man himself, and therefore, a surpassing singleness of mankind. The blazing tiger will spring upon the deer, un-dimmed, the hen will nestle over her chickens, we shall love, we shall hate, but it will be like music, sheer utterance, issuing straight out of the unknown, the lightning and the rainbow appearing in us unbidden, unchecked, like ambassadors. We shall not look before and after. We shall \_be\_, \_now\_. We shall know in full. We, the mystic NOW. (From the poem the Manifesto)”” [D.H. Lawrence](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/d-h-lawrence-2/) ## About This Quote This interpretation was drafted with AI assistance. It is one reading of the quote, not the author's own explanation. The speaker longs for a profound separation from another, seeking a pure, individual existence free from mutual entanglement, believing that true liberty arises from distinct, unmerged identities. **In simple terms:** Desire for distinct, unmerged individuality. Key Takeaway Freedom lies in being wholly separate. Themes individualism existential freedom otherness identity dualism liberation Mood intense lonely defiant Type philosophical poetic existential When to use this quote - intimate relationships - spiritual self‑realization - artistic creation - philosophical dialogue - psychological therapy Key Concepts self vs. other psychic separation existential authenticity metaphysical liberty Practical Applications - exploring personal boundaries - cultivating authentic self‑identity Questions to Reflect On - What does it mean to be truly independent? - How might intimacy coexist with individuality? 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She touches me as if I were herself, her own. She has not realized yet, that fearful thing, that I am the other, she thinks we are all of one piece. It is painfully untrue. I want her to touch me at last, ah, on the root and quick of my darkness and perish on me, as I have perished on her. Then, we shall be two and distinct, we shall have each our separate being. And that will be pure existence, real liberty. Till then, we are confused, a mixture, unresolved, unextricated one from the other. It is in pure, unutterable resolvedness, distinction of being, that one is free, not in mixing, merging, not in similarity. When she has put her hand on my secret, darkest sources, the darkest outgoings, when it has struck home to her, like a death, \"this is _him!_\" she has no part in it, no part whatever, it is the terrible _other_, when she knows the fearful _other flesh_, ah, dark- ness unfathomable and fearful, contiguous and concrete, when she is slain against me, and lies in a heap like one outside the house, when she passes away as I have passed away being pressed up against the _other_, then I shall be glad, I shall not be confused with her, I shall be cleared, distinct, single as if burnished in silver, having no adherence, no adhesion anywhere, one clear, burnished, isolated being, unique, and she also, pure, isolated, complete, two of us, unutterably distinguished, and in unutterable conjunction. Then we shall be free, freer than angels, ah, perfect. 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