--- title: "Meaning & Key Takeaway of: They call this love, she said to herself…" description: "\"“They call this love, she said to herself. I know what it is now. I never thought I would know, but I do now. But she failed to add: if you can step ba..." image: "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/02c/cornell-woolrich-2734_habit_they-call-this-love-she-said-to-herself_2509403.png" --- # They call this love, she said to herself. I know what it… ![“They call this love, she said to herself. I know what it is now. I never thought I would know, but I do now. But she failed to add: if you can step back and identify it, is it really there? Shouldn't you be unable to know what the whole thing's about? Just blindly clutch and hold and fear that it…” quote by Cornell Woolrich](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/02c/cornell-woolrich-2734_habit_they-call-this-love-she-said-to-herself_2509403.png) [Download](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/02c/cornell-woolrich-2734_habit_they-call-this-love-she-said-to-herself_2509403.png) [Open image](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/02c/cornell-woolrich-2734_habit_they-call-this-love-she-said-to-herself_2509403.png) > ““They call this love, she said to herself. I know what it is now. I never thought I would know, but I do now. But she failed to add: if you can step back and identify it, is it really there? Shouldn't you be unable to know what the whole thing's about? Just blindly clutch and hold and fear that it will get away. But unable to stop, to think, to give it any name. Just two more people sharing a common human experience. Infinite in its complexity, tricky at times, but almost always successfully surmounted in one of two ways: either blandly content with the results as they are, or else vaguely discontent but chained by habit. Most women don't marry a man, they marry a habit. Even when a habit is good, it can become monotonous; most do. When it is bad in just the average degree it usually becomes no more than a nuisance and an irritant; and most do. But when it is darkly, starkly evil in the deepest sense of the word, then it can truly become a hell on earth. Theirs seemed to fall midway between the first two, for just a little while. Then it started veering over slowly toward the last. Very slowly, at the start, but very steadily... ("For The Rest Of Her Life")”” [Cornell Woolrich](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/cornell-woolrich/) ## About This Quote This interpretation was drafted with AI assistance. It is one reading of the quote, not the author's own explanation. Love’s complexity is masked by habits; recognizing it requires introspection. **In simple terms:** Love can become a habit; seeing it needs reflection. Key Takeaway Question the nature of your relationships. Themes love habit identity illusion complexity Mood reflective melancholic Type literary philosophical When to use this quote - marriage - long‑term partnership - friendship - self‑analysis Key Concepts existentialism psychology Questions to Reflect On - Do you love the person or the habit? - How can you break unhealthy patterns? 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