--- title: "Meaning & Key Takeaway of: What's going on?\" I asked, gauging her…" description: "\"“What's going on?\" I asked, gauging her expression. \"Talk to me.\" She leaned into me again. \"Don't want to talk.\" \"Sara, I don't mind being your distra..." image: "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/9e4/christina-lauren-976_quote_what-s-going-on-i-asked-gauging-her-expr_1042355.jpg" --- # What's going on?" I asked, gauging her expression. "Talk… ![“What's going on?" I asked, gauging her expression. "Talk to me." She leaned into me again. "Don't want to talk." "Sara, I don't mind being your distraction but at least be honest with me aboout it. Something's wrong." "I'm fine." But she wasn't fine. She wouldn't have come here if she were…” quote by Christina Lauren](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/9e4/christina-lauren-976_quote_what-s-going-on-i-asked-gauging-her-expr_1042355.jpg) [Download](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/9e4/christina-lauren-976_quote_what-s-going-on-i-asked-gauging-her-expr_1042355.jpg) [Open image](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/9e4/christina-lauren-976_quote_what-s-going-on-i-asked-gauging-her-expr_1042355.jpg) > ““What's going on?" I asked, gauging her expression. "Talk to me." She leaned into me again. "Don't want to talk." "Sara, I don't mind being your distraction but at least be honest with me aboout it. Something's wrong." "I'm fine." But she wasn't fine. She wouldn't have come here if she were. "Bullshit. You're breaking your own rules by even being here. 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