--- title: "Meaning & Key Takeaway of: Stop looking for that person you were in…" description: "\"“Stop looking for that person you were in the past. She has changed. Look for the person she has grown into. She is wiser and stronger than than ever b..." image: "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/c23/chris-pepple-86254_abuse-survivors_stop-looking-for-that-person-you-were-in_2285321.jpg" --- # Stop looking for that person you were in the past. She has… ![“Stop looking for that person you were in the past. She has changed. Look for the person she has grown into. She is wiser and stronger than than ever before. Don't go back to who you were. Cherish who you are." --Without a Voice by Chris Pepple” quote by Chris Pepple](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/c23/chris-pepple-86254_abuse-survivors_stop-looking-for-that-person-you-were-in_2285321.jpg) [Download](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/c23/chris-pepple-86254_abuse-survivors_stop-looking-for-that-person-you-were-in_2285321.jpg) [Open image](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/c23/chris-pepple-86254_abuse-survivors_stop-looking-for-that-person-you-were-in_2285321.jpg) > ““Stop looking for that person you were in the past. She has changed. Look for the person she has grown into. She is wiser and stronger than than ever before. Don't go back to who you were. Cherish who you are." --Without a Voice by Chris Pepple”” [Chris Pepple](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/chris-pepple/) ## About This Quote This interpretation was drafted with AI assistance. It is one reading of the quote, not the author's own explanation. Embrace personal growth and let go of past identities, recognizing the wiser, stronger self you have become. **In simple terms:** Accept change and value your present self. Key Takeaway Focus on who you are now. Themes self‑acceptance growth identity Mood reflective empowering Type motivational inspirational When to use this quote - career transition - relationship building - creative projects - personal therapy Key Concepts psychology self‑development Questions to Reflect On - What aspects of your past self still serve you? - How can you honor growth without denying history? A Different Perspective May romanticize past self and resist needed change. ★ ★ ★ ★ ★ No ratings yet [Abuse-survivors](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/about/abuse-survivors/) [Changed](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/about/changed/) [Domestic violence](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/about/domestic-violence/) [Encouragement-quotes](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/about/encouragement-quotes/) [Faith](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/about/faith/) [Fiction](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/about/fiction/) [Grown Wiser](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/about/grown-wiser-4199763/) [Growth](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/about/growth/) [Hope](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/about/hope/) [Inspirational quotes](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/about/inspirational-quotes/) [Past Changed](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/about/past-changed/) [Stop Looking](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/about/stop-looking/) [Time](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/about/time/) [Wiser Stronger](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/about/wiser-stronger-465139/) [Women](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/about/women/) [Women-s-strength](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/about/women-s-strength/) [Writing](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/about/writing/) ## Related quotes > [“Today if anything is trying to hold you back, give no attention to it. Get your hopes up, get your faith up, look up,…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/germany-kent/today-if-anything-is-trying-to-hold-you-back-give-no-attention-to-it/) [Germany Kent](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/germany-kent/) > [“In his youth, Jon Connington had shared the disdain most knights had for bowmen, but he had grown wiser in exile.”](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/george-r-r-martin/in-his-youth-jon-connington-had-shared-the-disdain-most-knights-had/) [George R.R. Martin](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/george-r-r-martin/) > [“We have all grown wiser.”](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/ana-monnar/we-have-all-grown-wiser/) [Ana Monnar](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/ana-monnar/) > [To be perfectly honest, I think that as I'm growing older, I'm just growing more impatient. I'll be very happy if at some point…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/michael-haneke/to-be-perfectly-honest-i-think-that-as-i-m-growing-older-i-m-just/) [Michael Haneke](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/michael-haneke/) > [Even when we fancy we have grown wiser, it is only, it may be, that new prejudices have displaced old ones.](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/christian-nestell-bovee/even-when-we-fancy-we-have-grown-wiser-it-is-only-it-may-be-that-new/) [Christian Nestell Bovee](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/christian-nestell-bovee/) > [“Envision yourself a few years from now being smarter, wiser, stronger, happier, healthier, and wealthier.”](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/germany-kent/envision-yourself-a-few-years-from-now-being-smarter-wiser-stronger/) [Germany Kent](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/germany-kent/) > [Every little increase in human freedom has been fought over ferociously between those who want us to know more and be wiser and stronger,…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/philip-pullman/every-little-increase-in-human-freedom-has-been-fought-over/) [Philip Pullman](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/philip-pullman/) > [When you don't even realize it yourself, some day you will be looking into the mirror thinking, HOW ON EARTH DID I MANAGE TO…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/chee-vai-tang/when-you-don-t-even-realize-it-yourself-some-day-you-will-be-looking/) [Chee Vai Tang](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/chee-vai-tang/) > [But what if I fail? You will. A better question might be, ‘after I fail, what then?’ If you’ve chosen well, after you fail…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/seth-godin/but-what-if-i-fail-you-will-a-better-question-might-be-after-i-fail/) [Seth Godin](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/seth-godin/) > [I'm a better artist and I'm a better person because I'm wiser, and stronger and I know who's hip for me and who ain't.](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/boosie/i-m-a-better-artist-and-i-m-a-better-person-because-i-m-wiser-and/) [Boosie](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/boosie/) > [Remember you are a different person now than before, you are wiser & stronger for the trials that you have been through.](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/leon-brown/remember-you-are-a-different-person-now-than-before-you-are-wiser/) [Leon Brown](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/leon-brown/) > [The thing to be wished for, is not that the mountains should become easier, but that men should become wiser and stronger.](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/edward-whymper/the-thing-to-be-wished-for-is-not-that-the-mountains-should-become/) [Edward Whymper](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/edward-whymper/) > [The knowledge that you have emerged wiser and stronger from setbacks means that you are, ever after, secure in your ability to survive. You…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/anonymous/the-knowledge-that-you-have-emerged-wiser-and-stronger-from-setbacks/) [Anonymous](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/anonymous/) > [“Time had taught him that whether his sins were pardoned or left unforgiven, they would remain committed. Tomorrow he would hopefully choose wiser, with…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/roy-l-pickering-jr/time-had-taught-him-that-whether-his-sins-were-pardoned-or-left/) [Roy L. Pickering Jr](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/roy-l-pickering-jr/) > [The knowledge that you have emerged wiser and stronger from setbacks means that you are, ever after, secure in your ability to survive.](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/j-k-rowling-2/the-knowledge-that-you-have-emerged-wiser-and-stronger-from-setbacks-2/) [J. K. Rowling](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/j-k-rowling-2/) ## More by Chris Pepple > [“Healing starts the moment you accept the truth about what has happened. But healing doesn’t come quickly. When you know that death or pain…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/chris-pepple/healing-starts-the-moment-you-accept-the-truth-about-what-has/) [Chris Pepple](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/chris-pepple/) > [“My truth asked people to understand and to learn about depths of pain they had previously walked past…. I had kept my silence for…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/chris-pepple/my-truth-asked-people-to-understand-and-to-learn-about-depths-of-pain/) [Chris Pepple](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/chris-pepple/) [Explore all 3 Chris Pepple quotes ](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/chris-pepple/) ## More Abuse-survivors quotes > [“no recovery from trauma is possible without attending to issues of safety, care for the self, reparative connections to other human beings, and a…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/janina-fisher/no-recovery-from-trauma-is-possible-without-attending-to-issues-of/) [Janina Fisher](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/janina-fisher/) > [“I'm still not sure if I was a victim or not... and if I was, who was my abuser?”](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/eskay-teel/i-m-still-not-sure-if-i-was-a-victim-or-not-and-if-i-was-who-was-my/) [Eskay Teel](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/eskay-teel/) > [“In spite of the horror, in spite of the tragedy, in spite of the weeks of sleepless nights, I'm finally alive. I'm not pretending.…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/ellen-bass/in-spite-of-the-horror-in-spite-of-the-tragedy-in-spite-of-the-weeks/) [Ellen Bass](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/ellen-bass/) > [“Survivors of abuse show us the strength of their personal spirit every time they smile.”](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/jeanne-mcelvaney/survivors-of-abuse-show-us-the-strength-of-their-personal-spirit/) [Jeanne McElvaney](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/jeanne-mcelvaney/) > [“In situations of captivity the perpetrator becomes the most powerful person in the life of the victim, and the psychology of the victim is…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/judith-lewis-herman/in-situations-of-captivity-the-perpetrator-becomes-the-most-powerful/) [Judith Lewis Herman](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/judith-lewis-herman/) > [“The more I focus my time and energy on withstanding a real life, I am able to overcome and come out victorious.”](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/patricia-dsouza/the-more-i-focus-my-time-and-energy-on-withstanding-a-real-life-i-am/) [Patricia Dsouza](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/patricia-dsouza/) > [“The capacity for dissociation enables the young child to exercise their innate life-sustaining need for attachment in spite of the fact that principal attachment…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/warwick-middleton/the-capacity-for-dissociation-enables-the-young-child-to-exercise/) [Warwick Middleton](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/warwick-middleton/) > [“One of the reasons a survivor finds it so difficult to see herself as a victim is that she has been blamed repeatedly for…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/diane-langberg/one-of-the-reasons-a-survivor-finds-it-so-difficult-to-see-herself-as/) [Diane Langberg](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/diane-langberg/) > [“There is a moment in our healing journey when our denial crumbles; we realize our experience and it's continued effects on us won't "just…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/jeanne-mcelvaney/there-is-a-moment-in-our-healing-journey-when-our-denial-crumbles-we/) [Jeanne McElvaney](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/jeanne-mcelvaney/) > [“Dissociated trauma memories don't reveal themselves like ordinary memories. Like pieces of a puzzle, they escape the primitive part of our brain where the…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/jeanne-mcelvaney/dissociated-trauma-memories-don-t-reveal-themselves-like-ordinary/) [Jeanne McElvaney](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/jeanne-mcelvaney/) > [“When you accept things as they are, you allow yourself to make choices, that will help create the change you seek.”](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/patricia-dsouza/when-you-accept-things-as-they-are-you-allow-yourself-to-make-choices/) [Patricia Dsouza](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/patricia-dsouza/) > [“There came a time in my life when I had to admit to myself that I have some very clear narcissistic tendencies. Ironically, it…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/beverly-engel/there-came-a-time-in-my-life-when-i-had-to-admit-to-myself-that-i/) [Beverly Engel](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/beverly-engel/) > [“The experience of childhood sexual abuse leaves some survivors with a high tolerance for pain. Dysfunctional environments require endurance and thick skin. Child survivors…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/rosenna-bakari/the-experience-of-childhood-sexual-abuse-leaves-some-survivors-with-a/) [Rosenna Bakari](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/rosenna-bakari/) > [“Stuffing our memories might become familiar over the years, but it requires a mental vigilance that separates us from our inner world. It's building…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/jeanne-mcelvaney/stuffing-our-memories-might-become-familiar-over-the-years-but-it/) [Jeanne McElvaney](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/jeanne-mcelvaney/) > [“Kadyn was tearing down walls faster than I could build them. I knew what to expect from men who hit… men who threatened, manipulated,…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/k-s-ruff/kadyn-was-tearing-down-walls-faster-than-i-could-build-them-i-knew/) [K.S. Ruff](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/k-s-ruff/) [Browse all 133 Abuse-survivors quotes ](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/about/abuse-survivors/) ```json { "@context": "https://schema.org", "@graph": [ { "@type": "Quotation", "text": "“Stop looking for that person you were in the past. She has changed. Look for the person she has grown into. She is wiser and stronger than than ever before. Don't go back to who you were. Cherish who you are.\" --Without a Voice by Chris Pepple”", "creator": { "@type": "Person", "name": "Chris Pepple" }, "isPartOf": { "@id": "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/#website" }, "url": "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/chris-pepple/stop-looking-for-that-person-you-were-in-the-past-she-has-changed/", "about": { "@type": "Thing", "name": "Abuse-survivors" }, "@id": "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/chris-pepple/stop-looking-for-that-person-you-were-in-the-past-she-has-changed/#quotation", "image": { "@type": "ImageObject", "@id": "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/c23/chris-pepple-86254_abuse-survivors_stop-looking-for-that-person-you-were-in_2285321.jpg", "contentUrl": "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/c23/chris-pepple-86254_abuse-survivors_stop-looking-for-that-person-you-were-in_2285321.jpg", "url": "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/c23/chris-pepple-86254_abuse-survivors_stop-looking-for-that-person-you-were-in_2285321.jpg", "width": 1080, "height": 1080, "caption": "“Stop looking for that person you were in the past. She has changed. Look for the person she has grown into…” — Chris Pepple", "creditText": "SMS4Smile Quotes", "creator": { "@id": "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/#organization" } } }, { "@type": "BreadcrumbList", "itemListElement": [ { "@type": "ListItem", "position": 1, "name": "Home", "item": "https://sms4smile.com/" }, { "@type": "ListItem", "position": 2, "name": "Quotes", "item": "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/" }, { "@type": "ListItem", "position": 3, "name": "Chris Pepple", "item": "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/chris-pepple/" }, { "@type": "ListItem", "position": 4, "name": "“Stop looking for that person you...", "item": "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/chris-pepple/stop-looking-for-that-person-you-were-in-the-past-she-has-changed/" } ], "@id": "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/chris-pepple/stop-looking-for-that-person-you-were-in-the-past-she-has-changed/#breadcrumb" }, { "@type": "WebSite", "@id": "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/#website", "name": "SMS4Smile Quotes", "url": "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/", "publisher": { "@id": "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/#organization" } }, { "@type": "Organization", "@id": "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/#organization", "name": "SMS4Smile Quotes", "url": "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/", "logo": { "@type": "ImageObject", "url": "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/wp-content/themes/sq/assets/icons/icon-512.png", "width": 512, "height": 512 } } ] } ```