--- title: "Meaning & Key Takeaway of: I’ve had affairs before but never like…" description: "\"“I’ve had affairs before but never like this - I need a reason to leave my wife,” Shimansky said, desperately appealing to me. “Won't you wife be annoy..." image: "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/229/chassis-albuquerque-41135_affairs_i-ve-had-affairs-before-but-never-like-t_2284531.jpg" --- # I’ve had affairs before but never like this - I need a… ![“I’ve had affairs before but never like this - I need a reason to leave my wife,” Shimansky said, desperately appealing to me. “Won't you wife be annoyed?" I asked. “Probably. No doubt. She usually is…” he said. “That's very complicated. Even worse, what if your wife forgives you…? What then? You…” quote by Chassis Albuquerque](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/229/chassis-albuquerque-41135_affairs_i-ve-had-affairs-before-but-never-like-t_2284531.jpg) [Download](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/229/chassis-albuquerque-41135_affairs_i-ve-had-affairs-before-but-never-like-t_2284531.jpg) [Open image](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/229/chassis-albuquerque-41135_affairs_i-ve-had-affairs-before-but-never-like-t_2284531.jpg) > ““I’ve had affairs before but never like this - I need a reason to leave my wife,” Shimansky said, desperately appealing to me. “Won't you wife be annoyed?" I asked. “Probably. No doubt. She usually is…” he said. “That's very complicated. Even worse, what if your wife forgives you…? What then? You going to stay with her and keep doing the other one…?” From: "The Sundial Salesman.”” [Chassis Albuquerque](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/chassis-albuquerque/) ## About This Quote This interpretation was drafted with AI assistance. It is one reading of the quote, not the author's own explanation. A man rationalizes infidelity by seeking justification, highlighting moral conflict and emotional manipulation. **In simple terms:** He looks for an excuse to cheat, showing moral weakness. Key Takeaway Avoid rationalizing wrongdoing. Themes infidelity manipulation morality Mood conflicted anxious Type dialogue dramatic When to use this quote - marriage counseling - therapy sessions - personal reflection - relationship advice Key Concepts ethical dilemmas psychology Questions to Reflect On - Why do people seek excuses for harmful behavior? - What are healthier ways to address marital dissatisfaction? 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