--- title: "Meaning & Key Takeaway of: See—this is the problem. You don’t even…" description: "\"“See—this is the problem. You don’t even get where this is going. You can’t just ask me to come in, or kiss me, or tell me you want to know what smokin..." image: "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/8d2/charlotte-stein-3450_friend_see-this-is-the-problem-you-don-t-even-g_2487615.jpg" --- # See—this is the problem. You don’t even get where this is… ![“See—this is the problem. You don’t even get where this is going. You can’t just ask me to come in, or kiss me, or tell me you want to know what smoking pot feels like. When I’m close to you I feel crazy, okay? When you say my name I feel crazy. It’s not…the right thing for you. I don’t think I can…” quote by Charlotte Stein](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/8d2/charlotte-stein-3450_friend_see-this-is-the-problem-you-don-t-even-g_2487615.jpg) [Download](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/8d2/charlotte-stein-3450_friend_see-this-is-the-problem-you-don-t-even-g_2487615.jpg) [Open image](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/8d2/charlotte-stein-3450_friend_see-this-is-the-problem-you-don-t-even-g_2487615.jpg) > ““See—this is the problem. You don’t even get where this is going. You can’t just ask me to come in, or kiss me, or tell me you want to know what smoking pot feels like. When I’m close to you I feel crazy, okay? When you say my name I feel crazy. It’s not…the right thing for you. I don’t think I can just…be your friend.”” [Charlotte Stein](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/charlotte-stein/) ## About This Quote This interpretation was drafted with AI assistance. It is one reading of the quote, not the author's own explanation. A speaker expresses intense emotional confusion and fear of intimacy, feeling overwhelmed when close to someone they care about. **In simple terms:** Feeling overwhelmed and unable to be just friends. Key Takeaway Acknowledge and set clear personal boundaries. Themes relationships intimacy emotional health communication Mood anxious conflicted reflective Type dialogue emotional personal When to use this quote - dating - friendship - conflict resolution - personal growth Key Concepts attachment anxiety boundary setting self-awareness Questions to Reflect On - What triggers your feeling of “crazy” when close to others? - How can you communicate your boundaries without self‑sabotage? A Different Perspective The speaker’s fear may stem from deeper trust issues, limiting genuine connection. ★ ★ ★ ★ ★ No ratings yet [Friend](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/about/friend/) [Right thing](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/about/right-thing/) [Smoking pot](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/about/smoking-pot/) ## Related quotes > [“Anyone who questined me-I made them feel crazy for doing it.”](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/alexandra-bracken/anyone-who-questined-me-i-made-them-feel-crazy-for-doing-it/) [Alexandra Bracken](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/alexandra-bracken/) > [You just make me feel crazy & beautiful without trying and that's why I love you.](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/anonymous/you-just-make-me-feel-crazy-beautiful-without-trying-and-that-s-why-i/) [Anonymous](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/anonymous/) > [“It wasn't love, not quite, but it was almost there and it was desperate and I didn't know how to put it into words.…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/kristine-wyllys/it-wasn-t-love-not-quite-but-it-was-almost-there-and-it-was-desperate/) Kristine Wyllys > [I can hear him weeping but I don't care. They probably won't even bother to question her, she's so far gone. Gone right off…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/suzanne-collins/i-can-hear-him-weeping-but-i-don-t-care-they-probably-won-t-even/) [Suzanne Collins](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/suzanne-collins/) > [Some tym I feel m CRAZY.. but then I see my baby.. yeah baby m also crazYYY](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/viv3k-thakur/some-tym-i-feel-m-crazy-but-then-i-see-my-baby-yeah-baby-m-also/) Viv3k Thakur > [The idea for The Muse came from my own life, from a product that I wanted but couldn't find anywhere. Sometimes when you see…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/kathryn-minshew/the-idea-for-the-muse-came-from-my-own-life-from-a-product-that-i/) [Kathryn Minshew](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/kathryn-minshew/) > [“You've got rights. Lots of rights. Sometimes I count them just to make myself feel crazy.”](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/frank-miller/you-ve-got-rights-lots-of-rights-sometimes-i-count-them-just-to-make/) [Frank Miller](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/frank-miller/) > [“My love for her was a heavy, pulsing, living thing, and it made me feel crazy, and anxious, and famished.”](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/christina-lauren/my-love-for-her-was-a-heavy-pulsing-living-thing-and-it-made-me-feel/) [Christina Lauren](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/christina-lauren/) > [I don't know why I feel so crazy...I feel like I'm going through a stargate. Maybe it's the diet pills. Maybe it's Buddha.](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/dawn-french/i-don-t-know-why-i-feel-so-crazy-i-feel-like-i-m-going-through-a/) [Dawn French](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/dawn-french/) > [My queer black women peers are the ones who make me not feel crazy. The way we act is so instinctive.](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/kelela/my-queer-black-women-peers-are-the-ones-who-make-me-not-feel-crazy/) [Kelela](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/kelela/) > [When you see a struggle that you may be having personally put on a big screen and in a roomful of people, then it…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/michael-shannon/when-you-see-a-struggle-that-you-may-be-having-personally-put-on-a/) [Michael Shannon](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/michael-shannon/) > [If we're by ourselves we come to feel crazy and alone. We need to make alternate families of small groups of women who support…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/gloria-steinem/if-we-re-by-ourselves-we-come-to-feel-crazy-and-alone-we-need-to-make/) [Gloria Steinem](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/gloria-steinem/) > [This is what sexism does best: it makes you feel crazy for desiring parity and hopeless about ever achieving it.](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/anonymous/this-is-what-sexism-does-best-it-makes-you-feel-crazy-for-desiring/) [Anonymous](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/anonymous/) > [I realised that everything people made me feel crazy for doing or saying or wearing or whatever was the very thing that freed me,…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/doechii/i-realised-that-everything-people-made-me-feel-crazy-for-doing-or/) [Doechii](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/doechii/) > [“I don't like to feel so crazy about someone," he said. "I don't like to feel like my happiness is so tied up in…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/gabrielle-zevin/i-don-t-like-to-feel-so-crazy-about-someone-he-said-i-don-t-like-to/) [Gabrielle Zevin](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/gabrielle-zevin/) ## More by Charlotte Stein > [“Are you fucking kidding me? How do you get this wet? Jesus Christ. Jesus Christ. I don’t even…ohhhhh God. It’s all over your legs.…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/charlotte-stein/are-you-fucking-kidding-me-how-do-you-get-this-wet-jesus-christ-jesus/) [Charlotte Stein](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/charlotte-stein/) > [“Am I … not what you were expecting?” Of course, my immediate instinct is to say no. No, you’re not what I was expecting.…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/charlotte-stein/am-i-not-what-you-were-expecting-of-course-my-immediate-instinct-is/) [Charlotte Stein](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/charlotte-stein/) > [“No, baby,” he said. “I ain’t never satisfied when it comes to you. Even when I’m right there touching you, I want more of…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/charlotte-stein/no-baby-he-said-i-ain-t-never-satisfied-when-it-comes-to-you-even/) [Charlotte Stein](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/charlotte-stein/) > [“shakily. She tried not to grin, even though it was straining at her face. He wanted to play this seriously—to keep his rules while…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/charlotte-stein/shakily-she-tried-not-to-grin-even-though-it-was-straining-at-her/) [Charlotte Stein](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/charlotte-stein/) > [“God his voice sounded like pouring cream. All rich and thick and good, so good.”](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/charlotte-stein/god-his-voice-sounded-like-pouring-cream-all-rich-and-thick-and-good/) [Charlotte Stein](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/charlotte-stein/) > [“I’d never leave you. God I’d never leave you.”](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/charlotte-stein/i-d-never-leave-you-god-i-d-never-leave-you/) [Charlotte Stein](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/charlotte-stein/) > [“Oh God – accountability . Is there anything sexier on a man? Actual apologies . I could drown in him, I could.”](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/charlotte-stein/oh-god-accountability-is-there-anything-sexier-on-a-man-actual/) [Charlotte Stein](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/charlotte-stein/) > [“Their legs tangle together real easy. His hand goes over hers, fingers interlacing. So natural, too, as though they’d never said a harsh word…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/charlotte-stein/their-legs-tangle-together-real-easy-his-hand-goes-over-hers-fingers/) [Charlotte Stein](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/charlotte-stein/) > [“You know it feels good. I can hardly geta…I don’t even…” There was something amusing about watching him trying to form a coherent sen-tence.…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/charlotte-stein/you-know-it-feels-good-i-can-hardly-geta-i-don-t-even-there-was/) [Charlotte Stein](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/charlotte-stein/) > [“You are a strange people. So loving, yet so lonely, inside. I would lie awake at night and gaze up at the dark blue…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/charlotte-stein/you-are-a-strange-people-so-loving-yet-so-lonely-inside-i-would-lie/) [Charlotte Stein](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/charlotte-stein/) > [“What can I give you? I--" "You give me everything.”](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/charlotte-stein/what-can-i-give-you-i-you-give-me-everything/) [Charlotte Stein](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/charlotte-stein/) > [“She loved him for doing things like calling her such a goof. He said it with such warmth and affection, as though her being…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/charlotte-stein/she-loved-him-for-doing-things-like-calling-her-such-a-goof-he-said/) [Charlotte Stein](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/charlotte-stein/) > [“Just that one word—sound—sent a strong answering pulse through her body. His tongue curled around syllables that weren’t there, like a promise. This is…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/charlotte-stein/just-that-one-word-sound-sent-a-strong-answering-pulse-through-her/) [Charlotte Stein](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/charlotte-stein/) > [“There’s just the memory of that time he walked in on her while she was dressing, and afterward couldn’t string a sentence together. And…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/charlotte-stein/there-s-just-the-memory-of-that-time-he-walked-in-on-her-while-she/) [Charlotte Stein](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/charlotte-stein/) > [“And yet I feel I have to ask: if this is all the case, and you are so little and so weak … why…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/charlotte-stein/and-yet-i-feel-i-have-to-ask-if-this-is-all-the-case-and-you-are-so/) [Charlotte Stein](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/charlotte-stein/) [Explore all 130 Charlotte Stein quotes ](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/charlotte-stein/) ## More Friend quotes > [I'm trying to write a film with my friend. I'd love to get the thrill of speaking actors making my work even funnier.](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/russell-howard/i-m-trying-to-write-a-film-with-my-friend-i-d-love-to-get-the-thrill/) [Russell Howard](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/russell-howard/) > [I gave my archive to Emory University because there's a really dear friend who teaches there, Rudolph Byrd, and he's the editor.](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/alice-walker/i-gave-my-archive-to-emory-university-because-there-s-a-really-dear/) [Alice Walker](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/alice-walker/) > [Friends are like stars you can't always see them, but you know they're there.](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/unknwon/friends-are-like-stars-you-can-t-always-see-them-but-you-know-they-re/) Unknwon > [“But my best friend from college was silent for a long time. She, of all of my friends, had seen the parade of sad…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/lauren-groff/but-my-best-friend-from-college-was-silent-for-a-long-time-she-of-all/) [Lauren Groff](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/lauren-groff/) > [“way. A true friend isn't the one that agrees with everything you say or do. A true friend is someone that has your back…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/shameek-speight/way-a-true-friend-isn-t-the-one-that-agrees-with-everything-you-say/) [Shameek Speight](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/shameek-speight/) > [No one is completely unhappy at the failure of his best friend.](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/groucho-marx/no-one-is-completely-unhappy-at-the-failure-of-his-best-friend/) [Groucho Marx](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/groucho-marx/) > [“The real purpose of friendship was to discover and exploit weakness in others.”](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/brian-thompson/the-real-purpose-of-friendship-was-to-discover-and-exploit-weakness/) [Brian Thompson](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/brian-thompson/) > [That FRIEND who claim they do anything for you. but yet talk behind your back.](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/kushsoulja/that-friend-who-claim-they-do-anything-for-you-but-yet-talk-behind/) KushSoulja > [In life, we never lose friends we only get to know who the true ones are.](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/ace-kid/in-life-we-never-lose-friends-we-only-get-to-know-who-the-true-ones/) [Ace Kid](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/ace-kid/) > [“Before you were my enemy, you were my best friend.”](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/kresley-cole/before-you-were-my-enemy-you-were-my-best-friend/) [Kresley Cole](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/kresley-cole/) > [Sam dropped me off. When she was too far away to see me, I started to cry again. Because she was my friend again.…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/stephen-chbosky/sam-dropped-me-off-when-she-was-too-far-away-to-see-me-i-started-to/) [Stephen Chbosky](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/stephen-chbosky/) > [“When you get lost in a really strange place, nothing is more comforting than found your friend whom you trust and can show the…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/toba-beta/when-you-get-lost-in-a-really-strange-place-nothing-is-more/) [Toba Beta](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/toba-beta/) > [Friendship, "the wine of life," should, like a well-stocked cellar, be continually renewed; and it is consolatory to think, that although we can seldom…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/james-boswell/friendship-the-wine-of-life-should-like-a-well-stocked-cellar-be/) [James Boswell](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/james-boswell/) > [I fell in love with my best friend, but I know that if it doesn't last, it will never be the same.](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/shelly-yang/i-fell-in-love-with-my-best-friend-but-i-know-that-if-it-doesn-t-last/) Shelly Yang > [A best friend isn't someone who's just always there for you.Its someone who understands you a bit more than you understand yourself.](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/ritu-ghatourey/a-best-friend-isn-t-someone-who-s-just-always-there-for-you-its/) [Ritu Ghatourey](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/ritu-ghatourey/) [Browse all 14,984 Friend quotes ](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/about/friend/) ```json { "@context": "https://schema.org", "@graph": [ { "@type": "Quotation", "text": "“See—this is the problem. You don’t even get where this is going. You can’t just ask me to come in, or kiss me, or tell me you want to know what smoking pot feels like. When I’m close to you I feel crazy, okay? When you say my name I feel crazy. It’s not…the right thing for you. I don’t think I can just…be your friend.”", "creator": { "@type": "Person", "name": "Charlotte Stein" }, "isPartOf": { "@id": "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/#website" }, "url": "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/charlotte-stein/see-this-is-the-problem-you-don-t-even-get-where-this-is-going-you/", "about": { "@type": "Thing", "name": "Friend" }, "@id": "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/charlotte-stein/see-this-is-the-problem-you-don-t-even-get-where-this-is-going-you/#quotation", "image": { "@type": "ImageObject", "@id": "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/8d2/charlotte-stein-3450_friend_see-this-is-the-problem-you-don-t-even-g_2487615.jpg", "contentUrl": "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/8d2/charlotte-stein-3450_friend_see-this-is-the-problem-you-don-t-even-g_2487615.jpg", "url": "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/8d2/charlotte-stein-3450_friend_see-this-is-the-problem-you-don-t-even-g_2487615.jpg", "width": 1080, "height": 1080, "caption": "“See—this is the problem. You don’t even get where this is going. You can’t just ask me to come in, or kiss…” — Charlotte Stein", "creditText": "SMS4Smile Quotes", "creator": { "@id": "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/#organization" } } }, { "@type": "BreadcrumbList", "itemListElement": [ { "@type": "ListItem", "position": 1, "name": "Home", "item": "https://sms4smile.com/" }, { "@type": "ListItem", "position": 2, "name": "Quotes", "item": "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/" }, { "@type": "ListItem", "position": 3, "name": "Charlotte Stein", "item": "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/charlotte-stein/" }, { "@type": "ListItem", "position": 4, "name": "“See—this is the problem. You don’t...", "item": "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/charlotte-stein/see-this-is-the-problem-you-don-t-even-get-where-this-is-going-you/" } ], "@id": "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/charlotte-stein/see-this-is-the-problem-you-don-t-even-get-where-this-is-going-you/#breadcrumb" }, { "@type": "WebSite", "@id": "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/#website", "name": "SMS4Smile Quotes", "url": "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/", "publisher": { "@id": "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/#organization" } }, { "@type": "Organization", "@id": "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/#organization", "name": "SMS4Smile Quotes", "url": "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/", "logo": { "@type": "ImageObject", "url": "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/wp-content/themes/sq/assets/icons/icon-512.png", "width": 512, "height": 512 } } ] } ```