--- title: "Meaning & Key Takeaway of: Throughout our times with Christopher…" description: "\"“Throughout our times with Christopher [therapist] we were encouraged to work together at communicating on the inside. He pointed out that it would be ..." image: "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/27c/carolyn-bramhall-55093_abuse_throughout-our-times-with-christopher-th_1496172.jpg" --- # Throughout our times with Christopher \[therapist\] we were… ![“Throughout our times with Christopher [therapist] we were encouraged to work together at communicating on the inside. He pointed out that it would be good for us all to listen-in when an alter was telling his/her story - that it's now safe, no harm will come to us from telling or from knowing…” quote by Carolyn Bramhall](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/27c/carolyn-bramhall-55093_abuse_throughout-our-times-with-christopher-th_1496172.jpg) [Download](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/27c/carolyn-bramhall-55093_abuse_throughout-our-times-with-christopher-th_1496172.jpg) [Open image](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/27c/carolyn-bramhall-55093_abuse_throughout-our-times-with-christopher-th_1496172.jpg) > ““Throughout our times with Christopher \[therapist\] we were encouraged to work together at communicating on the inside. He pointed out that it would be good for us all to listen-in when an alter was telling his/her story - that it's now safe, no harm will come to us from telling or from knowing. There was once a time when it was very important that we didn't know what had happened; that knowing meant danger or being so overwhelmed with pain and grief that we wouldn't survive. But now it was different. We're safe and strong, and our goal now are to uncover the grisly truth of what's happened to us, so that it's no longer a powerful secret. We can look at it and face the past for what it is - old memories of old events. Today is now,and we can choose to live a different way and believe different things. We were once powerless and vulnerable, but now we were in a position to make choices. We had control over our life.”” [Carolyn Bramhall](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/carolyn-bramhall/) ## About This Quote This interpretation was drafted with AI assistance. It is one reading of the quote, not the author's own explanation. Therapeutic work moves from secrecy to safe disclosure, empowering individuals to confront trauma, reclaim agency, and choose new narratives. **In simple terms:** Therapy helps turn hidden pain into empowerment. Key Takeaway Embrace safe spaces to face past truths. Themes healing empowerment truth Mood hopeful determined Type transformational motivational When to use this quote - counseling - support groups - personal journaling - mindfulness practice Key Concepts trauma processing self‑agency narrative change Questions to Reflect On - What truths are you ready to confront? - How will you use new insights to shape your future? 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