--- title: "Meaning & Key Takeaway of: We don't fall in love with people because…" description: "\"“We don't fall in love with people because they're good people. We fall in love with people whose darkness we recognise. You can fall in love with a pe..." image: "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/a0e/c-joybell-c-471_darkness_we-don-t-fall-in-love-with-people-becaus_2517728.jpg" --- # We don't fall in love with people because they're good… ![“We don't fall in love with people because they're good people. We fall in love with people whose darkness we recognise. You can fall in love with a person for all of the right reasons, but that kind of love can still fall apart. But when you fall in love with a person because your monsters have…” quote by C. JoyBell C](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/a0e/c-joybell-c-471_darkness_we-don-t-fall-in-love-with-people-becaus_2517728.jpg) [Download](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/a0e/c-joybell-c-471_darkness_we-don-t-fall-in-love-with-people-becaus_2517728.jpg) [Open image](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/a0e/c-joybell-c-471_darkness_we-don-t-fall-in-love-with-people-becaus_2517728.jpg) > ““We don't fall in love with people because they're good people. We fall in love with people whose darkness we recognise. You can fall in love with a person for all of the right reasons, but that kind of love can still fall apart. But when you fall in love with a person because your monsters have found a home in them-- that's the kind of love that owns your skin and bones. Love, I am convinced, is found in the darkness. It is the candle in the night.”” [C. JoyBell C](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/c-joybell-c/) ## About This Quote This interpretation was drafted with AI assistance. It is one reading of the quote, not the author's own explanation. Love often thrives on recognizing shared inner shadows, creating deep, binding connections. **In simple terms:** Love finds strength in shared darkness. Key Takeaway Embrace shared flaws. 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