--- title: "Meaning & Key Takeaway of: Kind looks, kind actions, kind words, and…" description: "\"Kind looks, kind actions, kind words, and a lovely, holy deportment towards them will bind our children to us with bands that cannot easily be broken; ..." image: "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/044/brigham-young-1075_abuse_kind-looks-kind-actions-kind-words-and-a_2247879.jpg" --- # Kind looks, kind actions, kind words, and a lovely, holy… ![“Kind looks, kind actions, kind words, and a lovely, holy deportment towards them will bind our children to us with bands that cannot easily be broken; while abuse and unkindness will drive them from us, and break asunder every holy tie that should bind them to us and to the everlasting covenant in…” quote by Brigham Young](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/044/brigham-young-1075_abuse_kind-looks-kind-actions-kind-words-and-a_2247879.jpg) [Download](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/044/brigham-young-1075_abuse_kind-looks-kind-actions-kind-words-and-a_2247879.jpg) [Open image](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/044/brigham-young-1075_abuse_kind-looks-kind-actions-kind-words-and-a_2247879.jpg) > “Kind looks, kind actions, kind words, and a lovely, holy deportment towards them will bind our children to us with bands that cannot easily be broken; while abuse and unkindness will drive them from us, and break asunder every holy tie that should bind them to us and to the everlasting covenant in which we are all embraced.” [Brigham Young](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/brigham-young/) ## About This Quote This interpretation was drafted with AI assistance. It is one reading of the quote, not the author's own explanation. Treating children with kindness creates strong, lasting bonds; cruelty severs those bonds and damages the sacred relationship. **In simple terms:** Kindness builds strong ties; cruelty breaks them. Key Takeaway Practice consistent kindness toward children. Themes family parenting morality spirituality Mood compassionate reflective Type advice spiritual When to use this quote - parent‑child relationships - education - community building - faith formation Key Concepts covenant emotional attachment discipline Questions to Reflect On - How can we repair bonds after abuse? - What daily actions show genuine kindness? 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