--- title: "Meaning & Key Takeaway of: On the flip side, I've also had to…" description: "\"On the flip side, I've also had to struggle with saying \"yes.\" Before I did this research and before I had my own breakdown and spiritual awakening aro..." image: "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/dbe/bren-brown-280_adults_on-the-flip-side-i-ve-also-had-to-strugg_865794.jpg" --- # On the flip side, I've also had to struggle with saying… ![“On the flip side, I've also had to struggle with saying "yes." Before I did this research and before I had my own breakdown and spiritual awakening around this work, my motto was, "Don't do anything that you're already not great at doing." Which I think is the way the majority of adults in our…” quote by Brené Brown](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/dbe/bren-brown-280_adults_on-the-flip-side-i-ve-also-had-to-strugg_865794.jpg) [Download](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/dbe/bren-brown-280_adults_on-the-flip-side-i-ve-also-had-to-strugg_865794.jpg) [Open image](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/dbe/bren-brown-280_adults_on-the-flip-side-i-ve-also-had-to-strugg_865794.jpg) > “On the flip side, I've also had to struggle with saying "yes." Before I did this research and before I had my own breakdown and spiritual awakening around this work, my motto was, "Don't do anything that you're already not great at doing." Which I think is the way the majority of adults in our culture live. Authenticity is also about the courage and the vulnerability to say, "Yeah, I'll try it. I feel pretty uncomfortable and I feel a little vulnerable, but I'll try it!"” [Brené Brown](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/bren-brown/) ## About This Quote This interpretation was drafted with AI assistance. It is one reading of the quote, not the author's own explanation. True growth requires stepping beyond comfort zones and embracing vulnerability despite fear of failure. **In simple terms:** Growth needs courage to try uncomfortable things. Key Takeaway Embrace discomfort to grow. Themes vulnerability growth authenticity Mood reflective inspirational Type motivational self‑help When to use this quote - career change - learning new skills - public speaking - personal relationships Key Concepts psychology self‑development courage Questions to Reflect On - What uncomfortable task could you start today? - How does vulnerability change your relationships? 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