--- title: "Meaning & Key Takeaway of: Sure, shit happens we can’t control, but…" description: "\"“Sure, shit happens we can’t control, but that’s exactly what it is: shit you can’t control. You can’t control what it is, or sometimes what it does to..." image: "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/54f/bobby-adair-3804_control_sure-shit-happens-we-can-t-control-but-t_116640.jpg" --- # Sure, shit happens we can’t control, but that’s exactly… ![“Sure, shit happens we can’t control, but that’s exactly what it is: shit you can’t control. You can’t control what it is, or sometimes what it does to you. But like I’ve told you before, you can control how you feel about it, how you deal with it.” quote by Bobby Adair](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/54f/bobby-adair-3804_control_sure-shit-happens-we-can-t-control-but-t_116640.jpg) [Download](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/54f/bobby-adair-3804_control_sure-shit-happens-we-can-t-control-but-t_116640.jpg) [Open image](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/54f/bobby-adair-3804_control_sure-shit-happens-we-can-t-control-but-t_116640.jpg) > ““Sure, shit happens we can’t control, but that’s exactly what it is: shit you can’t control. You can’t control what it is, or sometimes what it does to you. But like I’ve told you before, you can control how you feel about it, how you deal with it.”” [Bobby Adair](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/bobby-adair/) ## About This Quote This interpretation was drafted with AI assistance. It is one reading of the quote, not the author's own explanation. Uncontrollable events are inevitable, but individuals retain agency over their emotional response and coping strategies, emphasizing personal resilience. **In simple terms:** You can't control events, only your reaction. Key Takeaway Emotional control empowers coping. 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