--- title: "Meaning & Key Takeaway of: And compassion really begins, the real…" description: "\"“And compassion really begins, the real seed of it is not thinking that you have some sort of special problem that isolates you from everybody else, bu..." image: "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/61a/barry-boyce-179194_compassion_and-compassion-really-begins-the-real-se_2069230.jpg" --- # And compassion really begins, the real seed of it is not… ![“And compassion really begins, the real seed of it is not thinking that you have some sort of special problem that isolates you from everybody else, but you begin to see, oh, we all have this vulnerability, and we’re all exposed to traumas, and that opens you up to other people, and then it opens…” quote by Barry Boyce](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/61a/barry-boyce-179194_compassion_and-compassion-really-begins-the-real-se_2069230.jpg) [Download](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/61a/barry-boyce-179194_compassion_and-compassion-really-begins-the-real-se_2069230.jpg) [Open image](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/61a/barry-boyce-179194_compassion_and-compassion-really-begins-the-real-se_2069230.jpg) > ““And compassion really begins, the real seed of it is not thinking that you have some sort of special problem that isolates you from everybody else, but you begin to see, oh, we all have this vulnerability, and we’re all exposed to traumas, and that opens you up to other people, and then it opens them up to you. And what develops over time, and can increase over time, is our resilience. Ultimately, our resilience is the strong part of us that goes along with the vulnerability. Resilience means that we have bounce-back. So, our false view of the world tells us that we’re going to be able to get through unscathed, as if we were not vulnerable. But the truth of the matter is that we are vulnerable, but we have tremendous bounce-back. We have to understand that we’re not going to bounce back instantly from something that’s extremely traumatic. Time heals.”” Barry Boyce ## About This Quote This interpretation was drafted with AI assistance. It is one reading of the quote, not the author's own explanation. Compassion arises from recognizing shared vulnerability, which builds resilience and a realistic view of bounce‑back over time. **In simple terms:** Seeing shared vulnerability builds resilience. Key Takeaway Acknowledge vulnerability, practice patience. Themes compassion vulnerability resilience mindfulness time healing Mood empathetic reflective hopeful Type Compassion:1 Mindfulness:1 Resilience:1 Time heals:1 Resilience Means:0 Time Resilience:0 Resilience Strong:0 Ultimately Resilience:0 Resilience Ultimately:0 When to use this quote - counseling - support groups - personal trauma recovery - team building - community outreach Key Concepts psychology emotional intelligence growth mindset Questions to Reflect On - How can you support someone’s slow healing process? - What practices foster shared vulnerability? A Different Perspective Resilience does not develop instantly; recovery can be slow and non‑linear. ★ ★ ★ ★ ★ No ratings yet [Compassion](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/about/compassion/) [Mindfulness](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/about/mindfulness/) [Resilience](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/about/resilience/) ## Related quotes > [“Maybe it would be well understood in this far future time that resilience, determination, refusal to accept defeat, and ability to bounce back from…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/douglas-e-richards/maybe-it-would-be-well-understood-in-this-far-future-time-that/) [Douglas E. Richards](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/douglas-e-richards/) > [Resilience is very different than being numb. Resilience means you experience, you feel, you fail, you hurt. You fall. 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