--- title: "Meaning & Key Takeaway of: What is more basic than the need to be…" description: "\"What is more basic than the need to be known? It is the entirety of intimacy, the elixir of love, this knowing.\" — Audrey Niffenegger" image: "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/8a5/audrey-niffenegger-1298_elixir_what-is-more-basic-than-the-need-to-be-k_1378900.jpg" --- # What is more basic than the need to be known? It is the… ![“What is more basic than the need to be known? It is the entirety of intimacy, the elixir of love, this knowing.” quote by Audrey Niffenegger](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/8a5/audrey-niffenegger-1298_elixir_what-is-more-basic-than-the-need-to-be-k_1378900.jpg) [Download](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/8a5/audrey-niffenegger-1298_elixir_what-is-more-basic-than-the-need-to-be-k_1378900.jpg) [Open image](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/8a5/audrey-niffenegger-1298_elixir_what-is-more-basic-than-the-need-to-be-k_1378900.jpg) > “What is more basic than the need to be known? It is the entirety of intimacy, the elixir of love, this knowing.” [Audrey Niffenegger](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/audrey-niffenegger/) ## About This Quote This interpretation was drafted with AI assistance. It is one reading of the quote, not the author's own explanation. The deepest human need is to be known intimately, which is the essence of love. **In simple terms:** Intimacy is the core of love. Key Takeaway Cultivate deep connections. Themes love intimacy identity knowledge human need Mood hopeful introspective Type philosophical romantic When to use this quote - friendships - romantic partnerships - therapy sessions Key Concepts existentialism psychology relationship theory Questions to Reflect On - What does being truly known feel like? - How can we safely share intimacy? 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