--- title: "Meaning & Key Takeaway of: You will think me cruel, very selfish…" description: "\"You will think me cruel, very selfish, but love is always selfish; the more ardent the more selfish. How jealous I am you cannot know. You must come wi..." image: "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/fbb/anonymous-1_apathetic_you-will-think-me-cruel-very-selfish-but_2354557.jpg" --- # You will think me cruel, very selfish, but love is always… ![“You will think me cruel, very selfish, but love is always selfish; the more ardent the more selfish. How jealous I am you cannot know. You must come with me, loving me, to death; or else hate me, and still come with me, and hating me through death and after. There is no such word as indifference…” quote by Anonymous](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/fbb/anonymous-1_apathetic_you-will-think-me-cruel-very-selfish-but_2354557.jpg) [Download](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/fbb/anonymous-1_apathetic_you-will-think-me-cruel-very-selfish-but_2354557.jpg) [Open image](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/fbb/anonymous-1_apathetic_you-will-think-me-cruel-very-selfish-but_2354557.jpg) > “You will think me cruel, very selfish, but love is always selfish; the more ardent the more selfish. How jealous I am you cannot know. You must come with me, loving me, to death; or else hate me, and still come with me, and hating me through death and after. There is no such word as indifference in my apathetic nature.” [Anonymous](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/anonymous/) ## About This Quote This interpretation was drafted with AI assistance. It is one reading of the quote, not the author's own explanation. Love is inherently selfish, intensifying jealousy and possessiveness, and indifference is impossible for the speaker. **In simple terms:** Love is selfish and jealous; no indifference. Key Takeaway Recognize and manage selfish impulses in love. Themes love jealousy selfishness indifference death Mood conflicted intense Type reflective emotional When to use this quote - relationships - breakups - conflict resolution - personal growth Key Concepts psychology attachment emotional intensity Questions to Reflect On - Do you accept selfishness in love? - How can you cultivate healthier attachment? 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