--- title: "Meaning & Key Takeaway of: You know, my boy, he said, it's…" description: "\"You know, my boy, he said, it's impossible to love men such as they are. And yet we must. So try to do good to men by doing violence to your feelings, ..." image: "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/e72/anonymous-1_above-average_you-know-my-boy-he-said-it-s-impossible_594090.jpg" --- # You know, my boy, he said, it's impossible to love men… ![“You know, my boy, he said, it's impossible to love men such as they are. And yet we must. So try to do good to men by doing violence to your feelings, holding your nose, and shutting your eyes, especially shutting your eyes. Endure their villainy without anger, as much as possible; try to remember…” quote by Anonymous](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/e72/anonymous-1_above-average_you-know-my-boy-he-said-it-s-impossible_594090.jpg) [Download](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/e72/anonymous-1_above-average_you-know-my-boy-he-said-it-s-impossible_594090.jpg) [Open image](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/e72/anonymous-1_above-average_you-know-my-boy-he-said-it-s-impossible_594090.jpg) > “You know, my boy, he said, it's impossible to love men such as they are. And yet we must. So try to do good to men by doing violence to your feelings, holding your nose, and shutting your eyes, especially shutting your eyes. Endure their villainy without anger, as much as possible; try to remember that you're a man too. For, if you're even a little above average intelligence, you'll have the propensity to judge people severely. Men are vile by nature and they'd rather love out of fear. Don't give in to such love: despise it always.” [Anonymous](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/anonymous/) ## About This Quote This interpretation was drafted with AI assistance. It is one reading of the quote, not the author's own explanation. The quote urges suppressing personal feelings to endure and judge others harshly, suggesting that love is impossible for flawed people and must be resisted. **In simple terms:** Endure others' flaws without love, suppress feelings. Key Takeaway Resist love, judge harshly. Themes judgment resistance human nature emotional suppression Mood cynical reflective Type philosophical critical advice When to use this quote - personal relationships - workplace dynamics - social activism - conflict resolution Key Concepts philosophical cynicism psychology Questions to Reflect On - Can you find compassion without self‑denial? - Is judging others ever truly fair? 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