--- title: "Meaning & Key Takeaway of: We women have lived too much with…" description: "\"We women have lived too much with closure: \"If he notices me, if I marry him, if I get into college, if I get this work accepted, if I get this job\" --..." image: "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/526/anonymous-1_abandoned_we-women-have-lived-too-much-with-closur_1549177.jpg" --- # We women have lived too much with closure: "If he notices… ![“We women have lived too much with closure: "If he notices me, if I marry him, if I get into college, if I get this work accepted, if I get this job" -- there always seems to loom the possibility of something being over, settled, sweeping clear the way for contentment. This is the delusion of a…” quote by Anonymous](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/526/anonymous-1_abandoned_we-women-have-lived-too-much-with-closur_1549177.jpg) [Download](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/526/anonymous-1_abandoned_we-women-have-lived-too-much-with-closur_1549177.jpg) [Open image](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/526/anonymous-1_abandoned_we-women-have-lived-too-much-with-closur_1549177.jpg) > “We women have lived too much with closure: "If he notices me, if I marry him, if I get into college, if I get this work accepted, if I get this job" -- there always seems to loom the possibility of something being over, settled, sweeping clear the way for contentment. This is the delusion of a passive life. When the hope for closure is abandoned, when there is an end to fantasy, adventure for women will begin.” [Anonymous](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/anonymous/) ## About This Quote This interpretation was drafted with AI assistance. It is one reading of the quote, not the author's own explanation. The quote suggests that women often wait for external milestones to feel complete, but true fulfillment comes from letting go of that need for closure and embracing adventure. **In simple terms:** Waiting for milestones limits freedom; letting go opens adventure. Key Takeaway Release the need for closure to discover adventure. Themes freedom identity adventure self‑discovery Mood reflective hopeful Type philosophical inspirational When to use this quote - career planning - relationship decisions - educational goals - personal growth Key Concepts existentialism feminist critique psychology Questions to Reflect On - What does closure mean to you? - How can you create adventure without waiting for milestones? A Different Perspective The focus on external validation may overlook internal motivations and societal pressures. ★ ★ ★ ★ ★ No ratings yet [Abandoned](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/about/abandoned/) [Accepted](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/about/accepted/) [Adventure](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/about/adventure/) [Clear](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/about/clear/) [Closure](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/about/closure/) [Closure Abandoned](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/about/closure-abandoned-5785893/) [College](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/about/college/) [Contentment](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/about/contentment/) [Delusion](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/about/delusion/) [End Fantasy](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/about/end-fantasy-5785894/) [Ends](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/about/ends/) [Fantasy](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/about/fantasy/) [Fantasy Adventure](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/about/fantasy-adventure-213786/) [Happiness](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/about/happiness/) [Hope Closure](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/about/hope-closure-5785895/) [Jobs](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/about/jobs/) [Life](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/about/life/) [Lived Closure](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/about/lived-closure-5785892/) [Notice me](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/about/notice-me/) [Passive](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/about/passive/) [Possibility](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/about/possibility/) [Sweeping](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/about/sweeping/) [Too much](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/about/too-much/) [Way](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/about/way/) ## Related quotes > [The best compliment I ever got from the public or producers or directors is that I just totally blend in and become the character…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/anonymous/the-best-compliment-i-ever-got-from-the-public-or-producers-or/) [Anonymous](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/anonymous/) > [“I set out to write a series of grand stories starring queer people. 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