--- title: "Meaning & Key Takeaway of: The lover I am; it befits me to burn; but…" description: "\"“The lover I am; it befits me to burn; but what is the reason for your weeping and burning? The candle replied: ‘Oh my ill-fated lover, a honey-sweet [..." image: "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/435/sa-d-130799_fire_the-lover-i-am-it-befits-me-to-burn-but_123723.jpg" --- # The lover I am; it befits me to burn; but what is the… ![“The lover I am; it befits me to burn; but what is the reason for your weeping and burning? The candle replied: ‘Oh my ill-fated lover, a honey-sweet [shirin] friend went away from me. Someone like Shirin has deserted me; there is fire on my head, as it was on Farhad’s.’ The candle continued, while…” quote by Anonymous](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/435/sa-d-130799_fire_the-lover-i-am-it-befits-me-to-burn-but_123723.jpg) [Download](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/435/sa-d-130799_fire_the-lover-i-am-it-befits-me-to-burn-but_123723.jpg) [Open image](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/435/sa-d-130799_fire_the-lover-i-am-it-befits-me-to-burn-but_123723.jpg) > ““The lover I am; it befits me to burn; but what is the reason for your weeping and burning? The candle replied: ‘Oh my ill-fated lover, a honey-sweet \[shirin\] friend went away from me. Someone like Shirin has deserted me; there is fire on my head, as it was on Farhad’s.’ The candle continued, while a painful flood each moment gushed down on his yellow cheeks: 'Pretender, this love is not your game, as you have no patience, no strength to stand. Untouched you shrink from a single flame, whereas I stand still until I am consumed. If the fire of love has scorched your wings, look at me: it burned me from head to foot.”” [Anonymous](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/anonymous/) ## About This Quote This interpretation was drafted with AI assistance. It is one reading of the quote, not the author's own explanation. A candle laments being consumed by love’s fire, contrasting its endurance with the lover’s fleeting passion. **In simple terms:** Love can burn both giver and receiver. Key Takeaway Self‑sacrifice may be unreciprocated. Themes love sacrifice pain Mood melancholic poetic Type poetic When to use this quote - unrequited love - creative writing Key Concepts metaphor of fire Practical Applications - recognize when love is draining Questions to Reflect On - When does devotion become self‑destruction? A Different Perspective Some view love as mutual growth, not sacrifice. ★ ★ ★ ★ ★ No ratings yet [Fire](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/about/fire/) [Fire of love](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/about/fire-of-love/) [Love](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/about/love/) [Persian poetry](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/about/persian-poetry/) ## Related quotes > [A spark of kindness starts a fire of love](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/anonymous/a-spark-of-kindness-starts-a-fire-of-love/) [Anonymous](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/anonymous/) > [Man loves company - even if it is only that of a small burning candle.](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/georg-c-lichtenberg/man-loves-company-even-if-it-is-only-that-of-a-small-burning-candle/) [Georg C. Lichtenberg](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/georg-c-lichtenberg/) > [I want a bit of peace and quiet in my life after burning the candle at both ends.](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/nigel-benn/i-want-a-bit-of-peace-and-quiet-in-my-life-after-burning-the-candle/) [Nigel Benn](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/nigel-benn/) > [The best part about burning your candle at both ends is that everything is much brighter in the middle.](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/wes-fesler/the-best-part-about-burning-your-candle-at-both-ends-is-that/) [Wes Fesler](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/wes-fesler/) > [In one was, I suppose, I have been "in denial" for some time, knowingly burning the candle at both ends and finding that it…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/christopher-hitchens/in-one-was-i-suppose-i-have-been-in-denial-for-some-time-knowingly/) [Christopher Hitchens](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/christopher-hitchens/) > [I am afraid for my health. I'm definitely burning the candle a little, at both ends, and I have to be careful about that.](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/zachary-levi/i-am-afraid-for-my-health-i-m-definitely-burning-the-candle-a-little/) [Zachary Levi](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/zachary-levi/) > [In one way, I suppose, I have been 'in denial' for some time, knowingly burning the candle at both ends and finding that it…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/christopher-hitchens/in-one-way-i-suppose-i-have-been-in-denial-for-some-time-knowingly/) [Christopher Hitchens](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/christopher-hitchens/) > [Man loves company even if only that of a small burning candle](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/georg-christoph-lichtenberg/man-loves-company-even-if-only-that-of-a-small-burning-candle/) [Georg Christoph Lichtenberg](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/georg-christoph-lichtenberg/) > [Burning the candle at both ends for God's sake may be foolishness to the world, but it is a profitable Christian exercise-for so much…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/fulton-j-sheen/burning-the-candle-at-both-ends-for-god-s-sake-may-be-foolishness-to/) [Fulton J. Sheen](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/fulton-j-sheen/) > [“I have been 'in denial' for some time, knowingly burning the candle at both ends and finding that it often gives a lovely light.”](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/christopher-hitchens/i-have-been-in-denial-for-some-time-knowingly-burning-the-candle-at/) [Christopher Hitchens](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/christopher-hitchens/) > [“I am but as the spark that gleams for a moment, His burning candle consumed me - the moth; His wine overwhelmed my goblet,…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/sir-muhammad-iqbal-allama-iqbal/i-am-but-as-the-spark-that-gleams-for-a-moment-his-burning-candle/) [Sir Muhammad Iqbal Allama Iqbal](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/sir-muhammad-iqbal-allama-iqbal/) > [Deathbed repentance is burning the candle of life in the service of the devil, and then blowing the smoke into the face of God.](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/billy-sunday/deathbed-repentance-is-burning-the-candle-of-life-in-the-service-of/) [Billy Sunday](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/billy-sunday/) > [“Sorrow prepares you for joy. It violently sweeps everything out of your house, so that new joy can find space to enter.”](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/jalaluddin-rumi/sorrow-prepares-you-for-joy-it-violently-sweeps-everything-out-of/) [Jalaluddin Rumi](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/jalaluddin-rumi/) > [“Farsi Couplet: Mun tu shudam tu mun shudi,mun tun shudam tu jaan shudi Taakas na guyad baad azeen, mun deegaram tu deegari English Translation:…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/amir-khusrau/farsi-couplet-mun-tu-shudam-tu-mun-shudi-mun-tun-shudam-tu-jaan-shudi/) Amir Khusrau > [“In his mystical epic "The Rhyming Spiritual Couplets" (Mathnawi-yi ma'nawi), Rumi frequently celebrates the Religion of Love. The following verse from his Mathnawi constitutes…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/hossein-elahi-ghomshei-phd/in-his-mystical-epic-the-rhyming-spiritual-couplets-mathnawi-yi-ma/) [Hossein Elahi Ghomshei PhD](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/hossein-elahi-ghomshei-phd/) ## More by Anonymous > [And a tear rolled down her cheek, as she said goodbye; because she's walking away, and she's never looking back](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/anonymous/and-a-tear-rolled-down-her-cheek-as-she-said-goodbye-because-she-s/) [Anonymous](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/anonymous/) > [Life is full of change. That's how we learn and grow.](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/anonymous/life-is-full-of-change-that-s-how-we-learn-and-grow/) [Anonymous](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/anonymous/) > [You'll seldom experience regret for anything that you've done. It is what you haven't done that will torment you. The message, therefore, is clear.…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/anonymous/you-ll-seldom-experience-regret-for-anything-that-you-ve-done-it-is/) [Anonymous](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/anonymous/) > [Scrabble - The game is available in Braille. That’s a nice fact. This makes me feel better about humanity for some reason. I can’t…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/anonymous/scrabble-the-game-is-available-in-braille-that-s-a-nice-fact-this/) [Anonymous](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/anonymous/) > [Everyone needs someone to love, and I choose you.](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/anonymous/everyone-needs-someone-to-love-and-i-choose-you/) [Anonymous](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/anonymous/) > [“THIS tale of my sore-troubled life I write,    To thank the God of nature, who conveyed    My soul to me, and with such care…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/anonymous/this-tale-of-my-sore-troubled-life-i-write-to-thank-the-god-of-nature/) [Anonymous](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/anonymous/) > [Put on my J's and dance the whole night away Im naughty by nature like Im hip-hop hooray With my hands in the sky,…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/anonymous/put-on-my-j-s-and-dance-the-whole-night-away-im-naughty-by-nature/) [Anonymous](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/anonymous/) > [Me.. I have been through a lot, but I still manage to have a smile on my face. Im not worried about the past…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/anonymous/me-i-have-been-through-a-lot-but-i-still-manage-to-have-a-smile-on-my/) [Anonymous](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/anonymous/) > [Distance is a test of love. many will fail for those who can't withstand it, but for those who can, theres only one answer…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/anonymous/distance-is-a-test-of-love-many-will-fail-for-those-who-can-t/) [Anonymous](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/anonymous/) > [Im sorry I ever tried...](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/anonymous/im-sorry-i-ever-tried/) [Anonymous](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/anonymous/) > [Being betrayed by the one you love is the worst feeling in the world...](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/anonymous/being-betrayed-by-the-one-you-love-is-the-worst-feeling-in-the-world/) [Anonymous](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/anonymous/) > [Let children support their parents or be imprisoned.](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/anonymous/let-children-support-their-parents-or-be-imprisoned/) [Anonymous](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/anonymous/) > [The only person I've ever purposely caused pain here is myself...By simply sharing, caring too much.](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/anonymous/the-only-person-i-ve-ever-purposely-caused-pain-here-is-myself-by/) [Anonymous](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/anonymous/) > [“Start a business, not a startup”](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/anonymous/start-a-business-not-a-startup/) [Anonymous](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/anonymous/) > [The truth is, of course, that the curtness of the Ten Commandments is an evidence, not of the gloom and narrowness of a religion,…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/anonymous/the-truth-is-of-course-that-the-curtness-of-the-ten-commandments-is/) [Anonymous](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/anonymous/) [Explore all 162,899 Anonymous quotes ](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/anonymous/) ## More Burned quotes > [“my stomach turned and burned with the acid of failure”](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/heidi-ames/my-stomach-turned-and-burned-with-the-acid-of-failure/) Heidi Ames > [These mercenaries, I swear by God, those who are still in Washington, they have sent their troops to be burned.](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/mohammed-saeed-al-sahaf/these-mercenaries-i-swear-by-god-those-who-are-still-in-washington/) [Mohammed Saeed al-Sahaf](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/mohammed-saeed-al-sahaf/) > [Men feared witches and burned women.](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/louis-d-brandeis/men-feared-witches-and-burned-women/) [Louis D. Brandeis](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/louis-d-brandeis/) > [“I knew I didn't have much of a chance of getting away from that swarm of fae piranha, but it was an infinitely larger…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/jim-butcher/i-knew-i-didn-t-have-much-of-a-chance-of-getting-away-from-that-swarm/) [Jim Butcher](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/jim-butcher/) > [Truth is error burned up.](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/norman-o-brown/truth-is-error-burned-up/) [Norman O. Brown](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/norman-o-brown/) > [I know I have I have sliced , burned ,bruised wriped at](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/slowly-fading/i-know-i-have-i-have-sliced-burned-bruised-wriped-at/) Slowly\_fading > [years ago we would have been burned for this. Now what I am suggesting is that we've advanced.](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/john-cleese/years-ago-we-would-have-been-burned-for-this-now-what-i-am-suggesting/) [John Cleese](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/john-cleese/) > [The life of men and women is so cheap and property is so sacred. There are so many of us for one job it…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/rose-schneiderman/the-life-of-men-and-women-is-so-cheap-and-property-is-so-sacred-there/) [Rose Schneiderman](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/rose-schneiderman/) > [Promoting the use of sustainable and renewable rainforest products can help to stop rainforest devastation. The rainforests are much more valuable alive than cut…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/chris-kilham/promoting-the-use-of-sustainable-and-renewable-rainforest-products/) [Chris Kilham](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/chris-kilham/) > [I would be a traitor to these poor burned bodies if I came here to talk good fellowship.](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/rose-schneiderman/i-would-be-a-traitor-to-these-poor-burned-bodies-if-i-came-here-to/) [Rose Schneiderman](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/rose-schneiderman/) > [I checked out all types of tobacco trying to find one that would be easiest to live with, I ended up using pipe tobacco.…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/david-strathairn/i-checked-out-all-types-of-tobacco-trying-to-find-one-that-would-be/) [David Strathairn](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/david-strathairn/) > [“Looks delicious," he lied. "A mite crispy along the edges - but then, I like it that way." Incredulous eyes met his own. "You…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/tracy-anne-warren/looks-delicious-he-lied-a-mite-crispy-along-the-edges-but-then-i-like/) [Tracy Anne Warren](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/tracy-anne-warren/) > [Most calves used by the dairy industry have their horns BURNED or GOUGED out of their heads.](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/casey-affleck/most-calves-used-by-the-dairy-industry-have-their-horns-burned-or/) [Casey Affleck](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/casey-affleck/) > [ \[General Curtis\] LeMay recognized that what he was doing would be thought immoral if his side has lost. But what makes it immoral if… ](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/robert-mcnamara/general-curtis-lemay-recognized-that-what-he-was-doing-would-be/) [Robert McNamara](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/robert-mcnamara/) > [If you are burned, you are naturally anxious to see what your face looks like as soon as they take the bandages off. In…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/jose-carreras/if-you-are-burned-you-are-naturally-anxious-to-see-what-your-face/) [Jose Carreras](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/jose-carreras/) Browse all 1,079 Burned quotes ```json { "@context": "https://schema.org", "@graph": [ { "@type": "Quotation", "text": "“The lover I am; it befits me to burn; but what is the reason for your weeping and burning? The candle replied: ‘Oh my ill-fated lover, a honey-sweet [shirin] friend went away from me. Someone like Shirin has deserted me; there is fire on my head, as it was on Farhad’s.’ The candle continued, while a painful flood each moment gushed down on his yellow cheeks: 'Pretender, this love is not your game, as you have no patience, no strength to stand. Untouched you shrink from a single flame, whereas I stand still until I am consumed. If the fire of love has scorched your wings, look at me: it burned me from head to foot.”", "creator": { "@type": "Person", "name": "Anonymous" }, "isPartOf": { "@id": "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/#website" }, "url": "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/anonymous/the-lover-i-am-it-befits-me-to-burn-but-what-is-the-reason-for-your/", "about": { "@type": "Thing", "name": "Burned" }, "@id": "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/anonymous/the-lover-i-am-it-befits-me-to-burn-but-what-is-the-reason-for-your/#quotation", "image": { "@type": "ImageObject", "@id": "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/435/sa-d-130799_fire_the-lover-i-am-it-befits-me-to-burn-but_123723.jpg", "contentUrl": "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/435/sa-d-130799_fire_the-lover-i-am-it-befits-me-to-burn-but_123723.jpg", "url": "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/435/sa-d-130799_fire_the-lover-i-am-it-befits-me-to-burn-but_123723.jpg", "width": 1080, "height": 1080, "caption": "“The lover I am; it befits me to burn; but what is the reason for your weeping and burning? The candle…” — Anonymous", "creditText": "SMS4Smile Quotes", "creator": { "@id": "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/#organization" } } }, { "@type": "BreadcrumbList", "itemListElement": [ { "@type": "ListItem", "position": 1, "name": "Home", "item": "https://sms4smile.com/" }, { "@type": "ListItem", "position": 2, "name": "Quotes", "item": "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/" }, { "@type": "ListItem", "position": 3, "name": "Anonymous", "item": "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/anonymous/" }, { "@type": "ListItem", "position": 4, "name": "“The lover I am; it befits...", "item": "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/anonymous/the-lover-i-am-it-befits-me-to-burn-but-what-is-the-reason-for-your/" } ], "@id": "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/anonymous/the-lover-i-am-it-befits-me-to-burn-but-what-is-the-reason-for-your/#breadcrumb" }, { "@type": "WebSite", "@id": "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/#website", "name": "SMS4Smile Quotes", "url": "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/", "publisher": { "@id": "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/#organization" } }, { "@type": "Organization", "@id": "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/#organization", "name": "SMS4Smile Quotes", "url": "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/", "logo": { "@type": "ImageObject", "url": "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/wp-content/themes/sq/assets/icons/icon-512.png", "width": 512, "height": 512 } } ] } ```