--- title: "Meaning & Key Takeaway of: There is also somehow the idea that this…" description: "\"There is also somehow the idea that this gay thing is all just about indulgence in carnal pleasure. When I was twenty and felt that nobody could know I..." image: "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/f9b/andrew-solomon-1140_evil_there-is-also-somehow-the-idea-that-this_990064.jpg" --- # There is also somehow the idea that this gay thing is all… ![“There is also somehow the idea that this gay thing is all just about indulgence in carnal pleasure. When I was twenty and felt that nobody could know I was gay, I was having sex with strangers in public parks. I don't think it was evil exactly, but it wasn't so great either. There was nobody…” quote by Andrew Solomon](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/f9b/andrew-solomon-1140_evil_there-is-also-somehow-the-idea-that-this_990064.jpg) [Download](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/f9b/andrew-solomon-1140_evil_there-is-also-somehow-the-idea-that-this_990064.jpg) [Open image](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/f9b/andrew-solomon-1140_evil_there-is-also-somehow-the-idea-that-this_990064.jpg) > “There is also somehow the idea that this gay thing is all just about indulgence in carnal pleasure. When I was twenty and felt that nobody could know I was gay, I was having sex with strangers in public parks. I don't think it was evil exactly, but it wasn't so great either. There was nobody particularly benefiting from it, except, I suppose, to the extent that it gave some pleasure to me and perhaps whomever I was with.” [Andrew Solomon](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/andrew-solomon/) ## About This Quote This interpretation was drafted with AI assistance. It is one reading of the quote, not the author's own explanation. The author reflects on youthful gay experiences as primarily pleasure‑seeking, acknowledging moral ambiguity and lack of broader benefit. **In simple terms:** Young gay experiences were about personal pleasure, not harm. Key Takeaway Consider the broader impact of personal choices. Themes identity sexuality morality Mood reflective introspective Type personal philosophical When to use this quote - personal memoir - L discussions - sexual education Key Concepts pleasure self‑discovery social norms Questions to Reflect On - How do personal pleasures intersect with ethical considerations? - What role does community play in shaping sexual identity? 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