--- title: "Meaning & Key Takeaway of: Often, to keep the family together, the…" description: "\"“Often, to keep the family together, the woman will accept repeated beatings and rapes, emotional battering and verbal degredation; she will be debased..." image: "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/6db/andrea-dworkin-1998_child-abuse_often-to-keep-the-family-together-the-wo_704239.jpg" --- # Often, to keep the family together, the woman will accept… ![“Often, to keep the family together, the woman will accept repeated beatings and rapes, emotional battering and verbal degredation; she will be debased and ashamed but she will stick it out, or when she runs he will kill her. Ask the politicians who exude delight when they advocate for the…” quote by Andrea Dworkin](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/6db/andrea-dworkin-1998_child-abuse_often-to-keep-the-family-together-the-wo_704239.jpg) [Download](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/6db/andrea-dworkin-1998_child-abuse_often-to-keep-the-family-together-the-wo_704239.jpg) [Open image](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/6db/andrea-dworkin-1998_child-abuse_often-to-keep-the-family-together-the-wo_704239.jpg) > ““Often, to keep the family together, the woman will accept repeated beatings and rapes, emotional battering and verbal degredation; she will be debased and ashamed but she will stick it out, or when she runs he will kill her. Ask the politicians who exude delight when they advocate for the so-called traditional family how many women are beaten and children raped when there is no man in the family. Zero is such a perfect and encouraging number, but who, among politicians in male-supremacist cultures, can count that high?”” [Andrea Dworkin](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/andrea-dworkin/) ## About This Quote This interpretation was drafted with AI assistance. It is one reading of the quote, not the author's own explanation. The passage exposes how patriarchal norms force women to endure extreme abuse, while society ignores the violence that occurs without a male figure. **In simple terms:** Patriarchal expectations cause hidden suffering. Key Takeaway Recognize and challenge oppressive family narratives. Themes gender violence family politics power Mood angry determined Type political advocacy When to use this quote - activism - policy reform - support services - education programs Key Concepts Patriarchal critique human rights Questions to Reflect On - What societal structures enable this abuse? - How can we support survivors effectively? 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