--- title: "Meaning & Key Takeaway of: 'We're doing it because he's trying to…" description: "\"“ 'We're doing it because he's trying to look like a respectable member of the family and not the fucking mafia,' Dex snapped. He grimaced at Ethan. 'S..." image: "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/d8f/amy-lane-2185_adorable-ethan_we-re-doing-it-because-he-s-trying-to-lo_1558741.jpg" --- # 'We're doing it because he's trying to look like a… ![“'We're doing it because he's trying to look like a respectable member of the family and not the fucking mafia,' Dex snapped. He grimaced at Ethan. 'Sorry, man, but seriously--this is some fuckin' suit.' Ethan looked at himself and his spiffy shiny cuffs and sighed. 'I was going for grown-up,' he…” quote by Amy Lane](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/d8f/amy-lane-2185_adorable-ethan_we-re-doing-it-because-he-s-trying-to-lo_1558741.jpg) [Download](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/d8f/amy-lane-2185_adorable-ethan_we-re-doing-it-because-he-s-trying-to-lo_1558741.jpg) [Open image](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/d8f/amy-lane-2185_adorable-ethan_we-re-doing-it-because-he-s-trying-to-lo_1558741.jpg) > ““ 'We're doing it because he's trying to look like a respectable member of the family and not the fucking mafia,' Dex snapped. He grimaced at Ethan. 'Sorry, man, but seriously--this is some fuckin' suit.' Ethan looked at himself and his spiffy shiny cuffs and sighed. 'I was going for grown-up,' he confessed. Kane was the one who said it. 'Well, what you got was connected, but that's okay, right? Because, you know, better a hired killer than a porn star.' ”” [Amy Lane](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/amy-lane/) ## About This Quote This interpretation was drafted with AI assistance. It is one reading of the quote, not the author's own explanation. A character mocks a mobster’s attempts to appear respectable, highlighting the absurdity of superficial appearances in criminal circles. **In simple terms:** People in crime try to look respectable, but it’s absurd. Key Takeaway Don’t be fooled by appearances. Themes appearance crime identity social pressure Mood cynical ironic critical Type dialogue fiction scene When to use this quote - gang meetings - family gatherings - career decisions - personal branding Key Concepts masculinity status authenticity Questions to Reflect On - What does “respectable” really mean in this context? - How do appearances affect trust? 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