--- title: "Meaning & Key Takeaway of: You might ask if I loved Jonathan for his…" description: "\"“You might ask if I loved Jonathan for his beauty, and I would answer: that is a pointless question, for his great, uncommon beauty was an irreducible ..." image: "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/53e/alma-katsu-30781_beauty_you-might-ask-if-i-loved-jonathan-for-hi_1823442.jpg" --- # You might ask if I loved Jonathan for his beauty, and I… ![“You might ask if I loved Jonathan for his beauty, and I would answer: that is a pointless question, for his great, uncommon beauty was an irreducible part of the whole. It gave him his quiet confidence­--and his easy, disarming way with the fairer sex. And if his beauty drew my eye from the first…” quote by Alma Katsu](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/53e/alma-katsu-30781_beauty_you-might-ask-if-i-loved-jonathan-for-hi_1823442.jpg) [Download](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/53e/alma-katsu-30781_beauty_you-might-ask-if-i-loved-jonathan-for-hi_1823442.jpg) [Open image](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/53e/alma-katsu-30781_beauty_you-might-ask-if-i-loved-jonathan-for-hi_1823442.jpg) > ““You might ask if I loved Jonathan for his beauty, and I would answer: that is a pointless question, for his great, uncommon beauty was an irreducible part of the whole. It gave him his quiet confidence­--and his easy, disarming way with the fairer sex. And if his beauty drew my eye from the first, I'll not apologize for it, nor will I apologize for my desire to claim Jonathan for my own. To behold such beauty is to wish to possess it; it's desire that drives every collector. And I was hardly alone. Nearly every person who came to know Jonathan tried to possess him. This was his curse, and the curse of every person who loved him. But it was like being in love with the sun: brilliant and intoxicating to be near, but impossible to keep to oneself. It was hopeless to love him and yet it was hopeless not to.”” [Alma Katsu](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/alma-katsu/) ## About This Quote This interpretation was drafted with AI assistance. It is one reading of the quote, not the author's own explanation. Obsessive desire for an idealized beauty leads to possessive love, creating a curse that both captivates and destroys. **In simple terms:** Desire for perfect beauty can be destructive. Key Takeaway Beware of idealizing others. 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