--- title: "Meaning & Key Takeaway of: Other attempts appear as scars, weals…" description: "\"“Other attempts appear as scars, weals, parentheses in conversation, absent days in his diary. But, at the same time, according to Stuart's weird sense..." image: "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/a6e/alexander-masters-19583_communication_other-attempts-appear-as-scars-weals-par_2813656.jpg" --- # Other attempts appear as scars, weals, parentheses in… ![“Other attempts appear as scars, weals, parentheses in conversation, absent days in his diary. But, at the same time, according to Stuart's weird sense of etiquette on such subjects, only one son in a family is allowed to kill himself, else it puts too much strain on the parents, and his brother…” quote by Alexander Masters](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/a6e/alexander-masters-19583_communication_other-attempts-appear-as-scars-weals-par_2813656.jpg) [Download](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/a6e/alexander-masters-19583_communication_other-attempts-appear-as-scars-weals-par_2813656.jpg) [Open image](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/a6e/alexander-masters-19583_communication_other-attempts-appear-as-scars-weals-par_2813656.jpg) > ““Other attempts appear as scars, weals, parentheses in conversation, absent days in his diary. But, at the same time, according to Stuart's weird sense of etiquette on such subjects, only one son in a family is allowed to kill himself, else it puts too much strain on the parents, and his brother, Gavvy, like Jacob in the Old Testament, has stolen Stuart's birthright.”” [Alexander Masters](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/alexander-masters/) ## About This Quote This interpretation was drafted with AI assistance. It is one reading of the quote, not the author's own explanation. Family expectations and cultural norms can create tragic pressures, leading to extreme actions. **In simple terms:** Family pressure can be deadly. Key Takeaway Question harmful expectations. Themes family culture mental health Mood somber reflective Type literary psychological When to use this quote - family gatherings - counseling sessions - cultural rituals Key Concepts psychology social pressure Questions to Reflect On - How can families foster open dialogue? - What resources help mental health? 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