--- title: "21 You Quotes By Martha Beck" description: "21 You quotes by Martha Beck. Plus more from Martha Beck and more You sayings from other authors." image: "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/0af/martha-beck-961_belief_whatever-terrible-things-may-have-happen_667449.png" --- > [Whatever terrible things may have happened to you, only one thing allows them to damage your core self, and that is continued…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/martha-beck/whatever-terrible-things-may-have-happened-to-you-only-one-thing/) [Martha Beck](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/martha-beck/) [Image](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/0af/martha-beck-961_belief_whatever-terrible-things-may-have-happen_667449.png) > [Even if you can be the world's best at one thing, you'll be the world's worst at something else. Supermodels make pathetic…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/martha-beck/even-if-you-can-be-the-world-s-best-at-one-thing-you-ll-be-the-world/) [Martha Beck](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/martha-beck/) [Image](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/351/martha-beck-961_best_even-if-you-can-be-the-world-s-best-at-o_1171979.png) > [If you're totally sedentary and eat 2,500 calories a day, don't instantly go to 1,200 calories and hours of aerobics - your…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/martha-beck/if-you-re-totally-sedentary-and-eat-2-500-calories-a-day-don-t/) [Martha Beck](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/martha-beck/) [Image](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/949/martha-beck-961_aerobic_if-you-re-totally-sedentary-and-eat-2-50_3111191.png) > [When I tell a woman you really need to quit your soul-sucking job, she goes home, and she can tell her husband,…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/martha-beck/when-i-tell-a-woman-you-really-need-to-quit-your-soul-sucking-job-she/) [Martha Beck](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/martha-beck/) [Image](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/b85/martha-beck-961_goes_when-i-tell-a-woman-you-really-need-to-q_2878557.png) > [If you're feeling intransigently ambivalent, it might pay to formally accept what's already happening - that is, decide not to decide.](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/martha-beck/if-you-re-feeling-intransigently-ambivalent-it-might-pay-to-formally/) [Martha Beck](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/martha-beck/) [Image](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/ecb/martha-beck-961_accept_if-you-re-feeling-intransigently-ambival_2511235.png) > [Tiny steps will get you to your goal months and months sooner. A little is better than a lot.](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/martha-beck/tiny-steps-will-get-you-to-your-goal-months-and-months-sooner-a/) [Martha Beck](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/martha-beck/) [Image](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/4af/martha-beck-961_better_tiny-steps-will-get-you-to-your-goal-mon_375120.png) > [As a life coach, I love makeovers, from new clothes to surgery, pedicures to highlights. But redoing makes you feel better only…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/martha-beck/as-a-life-coach-i-love-makeovers-from-new-clothes-to-surgery/) [Martha Beck](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/martha-beck/) [Image](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/5da/martha-beck-961_attitude_as-a-life-coach-i-love-makeovers-from-ne_396007.png) > [To really boost your sense of self-efficacy, think of ways you could modify your usual tasks to suit your personal style.](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/martha-beck/to-really-boost-your-sense-of-self-efficacy-think-of-ways-you-could/) [Martha Beck](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/martha-beck/) [Image](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/d0f/martha-beck-961_boost_to-really-boost-your-sense-of-self-effic_2449934.png) > [Indecision may come from an instinctive hunch that there's more you need to know - which means it's time to learn everything…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/martha-beck/indecision-may-come-from-an-instinctive-hunch-that-there-s-more-you/) [Martha Beck](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/martha-beck/) [Image](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/6b7/martha-beck-961_about_indecision-may-come-from-an-instinctive_3195675.png) > [Our ideas about love and attractiveness are so primal, our need for belonging so intense, that most of us are loath to…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/martha-beck/our-ideas-about-love-and-attractiveness-are-so-primal-our-need-for/) [Martha Beck](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/martha-beck/) [Image](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/5e3/martha-beck-961_abandon_our-ideas-about-love-and-attractiveness_1459168.jpg) > [Self-pity, a dominant characteristic of sociopaths, is also the characteristic that differentiates heroic storytelling from psychological rumination. When you talk about your…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/martha-beck/self-pity-a-dominant-characteristic-of-sociopaths-is-also-the/) [Martha Beck](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/martha-beck/) [Image](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/31e/martha-beck-961_about_self-pity-a-dominant-characteristic-of-s_2182807.jpg) > [It takes about four days of virtuous living to create a little weight loss. That also happens to be the time required…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/martha-beck/it-takes-about-four-days-of-virtuous-living-to-create-a-little-weight/) [Martha Beck](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/martha-beck/) [Image](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/471/martha-beck-961_about_it-takes-about-four-days-of-virtuous-liv_1045510.png) > [Sacred play is anything that takes you into that right hemisphere of your brain. It turns out that this move away from…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/martha-beck/sacred-play-is-anything-that-takes-you-into-that-right-hemisphere-of/) [Martha Beck](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/martha-beck/) [Image](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/61d/martha-beck-961_accomplished_sacred-play-is-anything-that-takes-you-i_1683863.png) > [When your entire brain is active, that means you are taking everything in through all sense perception. Your entire memory bank and…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/martha-beck/when-your-entire-brain-is-active-that-means-you-are-taking-everything/) [Martha Beck](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/martha-beck/) [Image](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/1db/martha-beck-961_active_when-your-entire-brain-is-active-that-me_2576002.png) > [Much protective self-criticism stems from growing up around people who wouldn't or couldn't love you, and it's likely they still can't or…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/martha-beck/much-protective-self-criticism-stems-from-growing-up-around-people/) [Martha Beck](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/martha-beck/) [Image](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/e99/martha-beck-961_accepted_much-protective-self-criticism-stems-fro_2097589.png) > [To complete your daily mental hygiene, observe any part of you that is upset or anxious, and offer that part of yourself…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/martha-beck/to-complete-your-daily-mental-hygiene-observe-any-part-of-you-that-is/) [Martha Beck](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/martha-beck/) [Image](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/18a/martha-beck-961_actually_to-complete-your-daily-mental-hygiene-ob_2026530.png) > [Expectation loiters in the DNA of every sentient being; when you tell yourself or a loved one, 'Don't get your hopes up,'…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/martha-beck/expectation-loiters-in-the-dna-of-every-sentient-being-when-you-tell/) [Martha Beck](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/martha-beck/) [Image](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/bcd/martha-beck-961_ancient_expectation-loiters-in-the-dna-of-every_185545.png) > [Everything I've ever taught in terms of self-help boils down to this - I cannot believe people keep paying me to say…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/martha-beck/everything-i-ve-ever-taught-in-terms-of-self-help-boils-down-to-this/) [Martha Beck](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/martha-beck/) [Image](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/714/martha-beck-961_believe_everything-i-ve-ever-taught-in-terms-of_2359091.png) > [I suggest Substituting Inedible Nurturance, or SIN. Don't replace overeating with virtuous work or exercise; instead, make a list of things you…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/martha-beck/i-suggest-substituting-inedible-nurturance-or-sin-don-t-replace/) [Martha Beck](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/martha-beck/) [Image](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/b9a/martha-beck-961_exercise_i-suggest-substituting-inedible-nurturan_2757422.png) > [Good-looking individuals are treated better than homely ones in virtually every social situation, from dating to trial by jury. If everyday experience…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/martha-beck/good-looking-individuals-are-treated-better-than-homely-ones-in/) [Martha Beck](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/martha-beck/) [Image](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/558/martha-beck-961_better_good-looking-individuals-are-treated-bet_417583.png) > [Whatever causes you to drop your plan forward and open to your vision, your own, deeply personal vision of what your life…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/martha-beck/whatever-causes-you-to-drop-your-plan-forward-and-open-to-your-vision/) [Martha Beck](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/martha-beck/) [Image](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/97e/martha-beck-961_best_whatever-causes-you-to-drop-your-plan-fo_2526803.png) ## Other authors on You ## More by Martha Beck > [Imagine what you'd do if it absolutely didn't matter what people thought of you. Got it? Good. Never go back.](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/martha-beck/imagine-what-you-d-do-if-it-absolutely-didn-t-matter-what-people/) [Martha Beck](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/martha-beck/) > [In one century, we've added 28 years to our average life span - a change so rapid that our brains couldn't possibly have evolved…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/martha-beck/in-one-century-we-ve-added-28-years-to-our-average-life-span-a-change/) [Martha Beck](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/martha-beck/) > [If I tell a man he needs to quit his soul-sucking job, he has to go home and fight with his wife or fight…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/martha-beck/if-i-tell-a-man-he-needs-to-quit-his-soul-sucking-job-he-has-to-go/) [Martha Beck](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/martha-beck/) > [I was learning to track rhinoceroses in Africa and tracked right up on an animal that really I thought was going to kill me.](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/martha-beck/i-was-learning-to-track-rhinoceroses-in-africa-and-tracked-right-up/) [Martha Beck](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/martha-beck/) > [There has never been, and never will be, anyone who sees, thinks, or responds exactly the way you do. Whether you’re revolutionizing physics or…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/martha-beck/there-has-never-been-and-never-will-be-anyone-who-sees-thinks-or/) [Martha Beck](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/martha-beck/) > [Loneliness is proof that your innate search for connection is intact.](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/martha-beck/loneliness-is-proof-that-your-innate-search-for-connection-is-intact/) [Martha Beck](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/martha-beck/) > [Most of my clients don't realize that the way they look and the way they think about their looks are two separate issues.](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/martha-beck/most-of-my-clients-don-t-realize-that-the-way-they-look-and-the-way/) [Martha Beck](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/martha-beck/) > [The power to bring me out of solitude - or to push me back into it - had never belonged to another person. It…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/martha-beck/the-power-to-bring-me-out-of-solitude-or-to-push-me-back-into-it-had/) [Martha Beck](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/martha-beck/) > [Learning to quit while you're not ahead, when the dull ooze of depression tells you things are not going to get any better, is…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/martha-beck/learning-to-quit-while-you-re-not-ahead-when-the-dull-ooze-of/) [Martha Beck](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/martha-beck/) > [The important thing is to tell yourself a life story in which you, the hero, are primarily a problem solver rather than a helpless…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/martha-beck/the-important-thing-is-to-tell-yourself-a-life-story-in-which-you-the/) [Martha Beck](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/martha-beck/) > [A joyful life isn’t about others; it’s about the brightness that is associated with being alive. Your path to it is through anything that…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/martha-beck/a-joyful-life-isn-t-about-others-it-s-about-the-brightness-that-is/) [Martha Beck](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/martha-beck/) > [Fear is the raw material from which courage is manufactured. Without it, we wouldn't even know what it means to be brave.](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/martha-beck/fear-is-the-raw-material-from-which-courage-is-manufactured-without/) [Martha Beck](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/martha-beck/) > [Many people think passion is a fuzzy feeling that makes taking action effortless. In fact, it's the gritty courage and tenacity to forge onward.](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/martha-beck/many-people-think-passion-is-a-fuzzy-feeling-that-makes-taking-action/) [Martha Beck](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/martha-beck/) > [Angels come in many shapes and sizes, and most of them are not invisible.](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/martha-beck/angels-come-in-many-shapes-and-sizes-and-most-of-them-are-not/) [Martha Beck](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/martha-beck/) > [Truth itself is something you live, not something you think.](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/martha-beck/truth-itself-is-something-you-live-not-something-you-think/) [Martha Beck](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/martha-beck/) ```json { "@context": "https://schema.org", "@graph": [ { "@type": "ItemList", "@id": "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/about/you/martha-beck/#itemlist", "name": "21 You Quotes By Martha Beck", "numberOfItems": 21, "itemListElement": [ { "@type": "ListItem", "position": 1, "item": { "@type": "Quotation", "text": "Whatever terrible things may have happened to you, only one thing allows them to damage your core self, and that is continued belief in them.", "creator": { "@type": "Person", "name": "Martha Beck" }, "url": "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/martha-beck/whatever-terrible-things-may-have-happened-to-you-only-one-thing/", "image": { "@type": "ImageObject", "@id": "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/0af/martha-beck-961_belief_whatever-terrible-things-may-have-happen_667449.png", "contentUrl": "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/0af/martha-beck-961_belief_whatever-terrible-things-may-have-happen_667449.png", "url": "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/0af/martha-beck-961_belief_whatever-terrible-things-may-have-happen_667449.png", "width": 1080, "height": 1080, "caption": "“Whatever terrible things may have happened to you, only one thing allows them to damage your core self, and…” — Martha Beck", "creditText": "SMS4Smile Quotes", "creator": { "@id": "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/#organization" } } } }, { "@type": "ListItem", "position": 2, "item": { "@type": "Quotation", "text": "Even if you can be the world's best at one thing, you'll be the world's worst at something else. 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