--- title: "14 Way Quotes By Gary Chapman" description: "14 Way quotes by Gary Chapman. Plus more from Gary Chapman and more Way sayings from other authors." image: "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/4c7/gary-chapman-1325_discovering_in-marriage-it-is-never-having-my-own-wa_2655660.png" --- > [In marriage it is never having my own way. It is rather discovering our way.](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/gary-chapman/in-marriage-it-is-never-having-my-own-way-it-is-rather-discovering/) [Gary Chapman](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/gary-chapman/) [Image](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/4c7/gary-chapman-1325_discovering_in-marriage-it-is-never-having-my-own-wa_2655660.png) > [The one who chooses to love will find appropriate ways to express that decision everyday.](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/gary-chapman/the-one-who-chooses-to-love-will-find-appropriate-ways-to-express/) [Gary Chapman](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/gary-chapman/) [Image](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/7a6/gary-chapman-1325_appropriate_the-one-who-chooses-to-love-will-find-ap_2914880.png) > [The fastest way to have a loving, supportive, understanding spouse is to become a loving, supportive, understanding spouse.](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/gary-chapman/the-fastest-way-to-have-a-loving-supportive-understanding-spouse-is/) [Gary Chapman](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/gary-chapman/) [Image](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/16b/gary-chapman-1325_become_the-fastest-way-to-have-a-loving-support_680945.png) > [ The pattern often has been entrenched since childhood... \[abusive people\] don't think that there is anything wrong with them because that is… ](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/gary-chapman/the-pattern-often-has-been-entrenched-since-childhood-abusive-people/) [Gary Chapman](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/gary-chapman/) [Image](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/8ab/gary-chapman-1325_abusive_the-pattern-often-has-been-entrenched-si_1597705.png) > [I thought the whole thing was you fall in love with somebody, and it's so wonderful, and it's so euphoric, and it's…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/gary-chapman/i-thought-the-whole-thing-was-you-fall-in-love-with-somebody-and-it-s/) [Gary Chapman](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/gary-chapman/) [Image](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/7ba/gary-chapman-1325_euphoria_i-thought-the-whole-thing-was-you-fall-i_1001931.jpg) > [My attitude affects my actions. So, if I have a negative attitude about it, then it is going to show up in…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/gary-chapman/my-attitude-affects-my-actions-so-if-i-have-a-negative-attitude-about/) [Gary Chapman](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/gary-chapman/) [Image](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/868/gary-chapman-1325_action_my-attitude-affects-my-actions-so-if-i-h_268299.png) > [In a difficult marriage, both of us have failed each other. Even though one may be the major problem,you also have failed…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/gary-chapman/in-a-difficult-marriage-both-of-us-have-failed-each-other-even-though/) [Gary Chapman](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/gary-chapman/) [Image](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/97c/gary-chapman-1325_difficult_in-a-difficult-marriage-both-of-us-have_592319.png) > [We can look at the pain in our lives. We can look at the way we have been mistreated, and we can…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/gary-chapman/we-can-look-at-the-pain-in-our-lives-we-can-look-at-the-way-we-have/) [Gary Chapman](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/gary-chapman/) [Image](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/af6/gary-chapman-1325_amount_we-can-look-at-the-pain-in-our-lives-we_1831217.png) > [On the other hand, if I walk in the house, I don't even bother to find her, I just walk in the…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/gary-chapman/on-the-other-hand-if-i-walk-in-the-house-i-don-t-even-bother-to-find/) [Gary Chapman](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/gary-chapman/) [Image](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/346/gary-chapman-1325_bother_on-the-other-hand-if-i-walk-in-the-house_63291.png) > [ One \[reality\] is that I am responsible for my attitude. I can be in prison, and I happen to get a chance… ](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/gary-chapman/one-reality-is-that-i-am-responsible-for-my-attitude-i-can-be-in/) [Gary Chapman](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/gary-chapman/) [Image](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/907/gary-chapman-1325_attitude_one-reality-is-that-i-am-responsible-for_239942.jpg) > [Before I discovered the concept of the 5 love languages, a bit of advice I was given was to become a student…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/gary-chapman/before-i-discovered-the-concept-of-the-5-love-languages-a-bit-of/) [Gary Chapman](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/gary-chapman/) [Image](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/70d/gary-chapman-1325_advice_before-i-discovered-the-concept-of-the-5_2700525.jpg) > [Ask yourself: Does the action I am considering have any potential for dealing with the wrong and helping the relationship? And is…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/gary-chapman/ask-yourself-does-the-action-i-am-considering-have-any-potential-for/) [Gary Chapman](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/gary-chapman/) [Image](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/9a0/gary-chapman-1325_action_ask-yourself-does-the-action-i-am-consid_744475.png) > [Respect begins with this attitude: "I acknowledge that you are a creature of extreme worth. God has endowed you with certain abilities…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/gary-chapman/respect-begins-with-this-attitude-i-acknowledge-that-you-are-a/) [Gary Chapman](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/gary-chapman/) [Image](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/0ad/gary-chapman-1325_ability_respect-begins-with-this-attitude-i-ackn_1733872.jpg) > [If I walk in the house, and I greet my wife, and I give her a hug, kiss her on the cheek,…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/gary-chapman/if-i-walk-in-the-house-and-i-greet-my-wife-and-i-give-her-a-hug-kiss/) [Gary Chapman](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/gary-chapman/) [Image](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/5f5/gary-chapman-1325_can-do_if-i-walk-in-the-house-and-i-greet-my-wi_2123839.jpg) ## Other authors on Way ## More by Gary Chapman > [Marriages are always moving from one season to another. Sometimes we find ourselves in winter--discouraged, detached, and dissatisfied; other times we experience springtime, with…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/gary-chapman/marriages-are-always-moving-from-one-season-to-another-sometimes-we/) [Gary Chapman](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/gary-chapman/) > [Something in our nature cries out to be loved by another. Isolation is devastating to the human psyche. That is why solitary confinement is…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/gary-chapman/something-in-our-nature-cries-out-to-be-loved-by-another-isolation-is/) [Gary Chapman](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/gary-chapman/) > [Most of us have more potential than we will ever develop. What holds us back is often a lack of courage.](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/gary-chapman/most-of-us-have-more-potential-than-we-will-ever-develop-what-holds/) [Gary Chapman](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/gary-chapman/) > [On the other hand, if I walk in the house, I don't even bother to find her, I just walk in the den and…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/gary-chapman/on-the-other-hand-if-i-walk-in-the-house-i-don-t-even-bother-to-find/) [Gary Chapman](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/gary-chapman/) > [“I look for three things in hiring people. The first is personal integrity, the second is intelligence, and the third is a high energy…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/gary-chapman/i-look-for-three-things-in-hiring-people-the-first-is-personal/) [Gary Chapman](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/gary-chapman/) > [Love is always freely given. Love cannot be demanded. We can request things of each other, but we must never demand anything. Requests give…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/gary-chapman/love-is-always-freely-given-love-cannot-be-demanded-we-can-request/) [Gary Chapman](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/gary-chapman/) > [“Psychologist William James said that possibly the deepest human need is the need to feel appreciated.”](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/gary-chapman/psychologist-william-james-said-that-possibly-the-deepest-human-need/) [Gary Chapman](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/gary-chapman/) > [I think that in today's world, by nature, we are all self-centered. And that often leads to selfishness.](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/gary-chapman/i-think-that-in-today-s-world-by-nature-we-are-all-self-centered-and/) [Gary Chapman](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/gary-chapman/) > [Sometimes when the spouse is really the culprit, it is hard to admit what you consider your little failures, but if you are going…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/gary-chapman/sometimes-when-the-spouse-is-really-the-culprit-it-is-hard-to-admit/) [Gary Chapman](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/gary-chapman/) > [“There is a third truth, which only the mature lover will be able to hear. My spouse’s criticisms about my behavior provide me with…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/gary-chapman/there-is-a-third-truth-which-only-the-mature-lover-will-be-able-to/) [Gary Chapman](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/gary-chapman/) > [ The getting out part \[of advise\] may well be true. Because if you have tried the tender love thing... typically the abuser is not… ](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/gary-chapman/the-getting-out-part-of-advise-may-well-be-true-because-if-you-have/) [Gary Chapman](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/gary-chapman/) > [ I wrote this book \[ Desperate Marriages\] because of my own marriage. My wife and I struggled greatly in the early years of marriage.… ](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/gary-chapman/i-wrote-this-book-desperate-marriages-because-of-my-own-marriage-my/) [Gary Chapman](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/gary-chapman/) > [As a senior in high school, I had a strong sense that God wanted me in some kind of ministry.](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/gary-chapman/as-a-senior-in-high-school-i-had-a-strong-sense-that-god-wanted-me-in/) [Gary Chapman](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/gary-chapman/) > [We all desperately need love. If a spouse in a difficult marriage will learn the love language of that spouse, and they will, with…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/gary-chapman/we-all-desperately-need-love-if-a-spouse-in-a-difficult-marriage-will/) [Gary Chapman](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/gary-chapman/) > [“If acts of service do not come naturally for you, it is still a love language worth acquiring. It is a way of expressing…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/gary-chapman/if-acts-of-service-do-not-come-naturally-for-you-it-is-still-a-love/) [Gary Chapman](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/gary-chapman/) ```json { "@context": "https://schema.org", "@graph": [ { "@type": "ItemList", "@id": "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/about/way/gary-chapman/#itemlist", "name": "14 Way Quotes By Gary Chapman", "numberOfItems": 14, "itemListElement": [ { "@type": "ListItem", "position": 1, "item": { "@type": "Quotation", "text": "In marriage it is never having my own way. 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