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> [“Better, then, to go light on the sexual particulars, and think instead of who’s winning and who’s losing at any given point. How is power being exchanged here? I want to say, “Who’s on top?” But that would of course…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/michael-cunningham/better-then-to-go-light-on-the-sexual-particulars-and-think-instead/)

[Michael Cunningham](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/michael-cunningham/)

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## More by Michael Cunningham

> [“Mizzy has wandered into the garden. Carole looks contemplatively at him, says, "Lovely boy." "My wife's insanely younger brother. He's one of those kids…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/michael-cunningham/mizzy-has-wandered-into-the-garden-carole-looks-contemplatively-at/)

[Michael Cunningham](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/michael-cunningham/)

> [“Zoe loved Trancas's mother. She respected her exhausted and ironic hope for rebirth.”](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/michael-cunningham/zoe-loved-trancas-s-mother-she-respected-her-exhausted-and-ironic/)

[Michael Cunningham](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/michael-cunningham/)

> [The lives great artists live and the books they write are two very different things.](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/michael-cunningham/the-lives-great-artists-live-and-the-books-they-write-are-two-very/)

[Michael Cunningham](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/michael-cunningham/)

> [“How often since then has she wondered what might have happened if she'd tried to remain with him; if she’d returned Richard's kiss on…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/michael-cunningham/how-often-since-then-has-she-wondered-what-might-have-happened-if-she/)

[Michael Cunningham](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/michael-cunningham/)

> [“...a full week of their mother's quiet fury over the fun they don't seem to be having and their father's dogged attempts to provide…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/michael-cunningham/a-full-week-of-their-mother-s-quiet-fury-over-the-fun-they-don-t-seem/)

[Michael Cunningham](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/michael-cunningham/)

> [Oh, all you immigrants and visionaries, what do you hope to find here, who do you hope to become?](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/michael-cunningham/oh-all-you-immigrants-and-visionaries-what-do-you-hope-to-find-here/)

[Michael Cunningham](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/michael-cunningham/)

> [“She wants to have baked a cake that banishes sorrow, even if only for a little while.”](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/michael-cunningham/she-wants-to-have-baked-a-cake-that-banishes-sorrow-even-if-only-for/)

[Michael Cunningham](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/michael-cunningham/)

> [“And yet, it gives Peter nothing. Not now. Not today. Not when he needs... more. More than this well-executed idea. More than the shark…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/michael-cunningham/and-yet-it-gives-peter-nothing-not-now-not-today-not-when-he-needs/)

[Michael Cunningham](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/michael-cunningham/)

> [He insists on a version of you that is funnier, stranger, more eccentric and prfound thatn you suspect yourself to be--capable of doing more…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/michael-cunningham/he-insists-on-a-version-of-you-that-is-funnier-stranger-more/)

[Michael Cunningham](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/michael-cunningham/)

> [The worst are full of passionate intensity while the best lack all conviction.](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/michael-cunningham/the-worst-are-full-of-passionate-intensity-while-the-best-lack-all/)

[Michael Cunningham](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/michael-cunningham/)

> [“And here he is, letting the massive steel street door click shut behind him, standing at the top of the three iron steps that…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/michael-cunningham/and-here-he-is-letting-the-massive-steel-street-door-click-shut/)

[Michael Cunningham](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/michael-cunningham/)

> [It's the world, you live in it, even if some boy has made a fool of you.](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/michael-cunningham/it-s-the-world-you-live-in-it-even-if-some-boy-has-made-a-fool-of-you/)

[Michael Cunningham](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/michael-cunningham/)

> [“She's had a long life. Now she's going to the Lord." "Frankly it creeps me out a little when you say things like that,"…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/michael-cunningham/she-s-had-a-long-life-now-she-s-going-to-the-lord-frankly-it-creeps/)

[Michael Cunningham](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/michael-cunningham/)

> [Any other vexations to report?" he asks. "I love the word 'vexations.'" "It's the 'x.' Nice to jump off a 'v' and bite into…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/michael-cunningham/any-other-vexations-to-report-he-asks-i-love-the-word-vexations-it-s/)

[Michael Cunningham](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/michael-cunningham/)

> [Dead, we are revealed in our true dimensions, and they are surprisingly modest.](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/michael-cunningham/dead-we-are-revealed-in-our-true-dimensions-and-they-are-surprisingly/)

[Michael Cunningham](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/michael-cunningham/)

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