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title: "2 Therapist Quotes By Steven C. Hayes"
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> [If a therapist is feeling insecure in therapy, a lot of therapists will try to sort of push that aside to try to do the therapy. Instead, we would ask people to get with that feeling of insecurity, because after…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/steven-c-hayes/if-a-therapist-is-feeling-insecure-in-therapy-a-lot-of-therapists/)

[Steven C. Hayes](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/steven-c-hayes/)

[Image](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/e75/steven-c-hayes-19351_feeling-insecure_if-a-therapist-is-feeling-insecure-in-th_312118.png)

> [Your history's not going to go away; it isn't the same thing as dirt on the floor or paint peeling off the walls; it's not going to be solved in that way. It's more like learning how to carry it,…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/steven-c-hayes/your-history-s-not-going-to-go-away-it-isn-t-the-same-thing-as-dirt/)

[Steven C. Hayes](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/steven-c-hayes/)

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## Other authors on Therapist

## More by Steven C. Hayes

> [“If you were on a bus trying to go east in a maze of dirt roads in a large valley, you might not be…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/steven-c-hayes/if-you-were-on-a-bus-trying-to-go-east-in-a-maze-of-dirt-roads-in-a/)

[Steven C. Hayes](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/steven-c-hayes/)

> [If a therapist is feeling insecure in therapy, a lot of therapists will try to sort of push that aside to try to do…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/steven-c-hayes/if-a-therapist-is-feeling-insecure-in-therapy-a-lot-of-therapists/)

[Steven C. Hayes](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/steven-c-hayes/)

> [ACT psychology is a psychology of the normal. A lot of the psychologies that are out there are built on the psychology of the…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/steven-c-hayes/act-psychology-is-a-psychology-of-the-normal-a-lot-of-the/)

[Steven C. Hayes](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/steven-c-hayes/)

> [If you aren't willing to have it, you will.](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/steven-c-hayes/if-you-aren-t-willing-to-have-it-you-will/)

[Steven C. Hayes](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/steven-c-hayes/)

> [Your history's not going to go away; it isn't the same thing as dirt on the floor or paint peeling off the walls; it's…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/steven-c-hayes/your-history-s-not-going-to-go-away-it-isn-t-the-same-thing-as-dirt/)

[Steven C. Hayes](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/steven-c-hayes/)

> [I want good science, and I want it to be realistically marketed. I wouldn't like only two countries on the planet that allow pharmaceutical…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/steven-c-hayes/i-want-good-science-and-i-want-it-to-be-realistically-marketed-i/)

[Steven C. Hayes](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/steven-c-hayes/)

> [The government ought to help out, because the average citizen can't go out and be doing reviews of the scientific literature. And focus on…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/steven-c-hayes/the-government-ought-to-help-out-because-the-average-citizen-can-t-go/)

[Steven C. Hayes](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/steven-c-hayes/)

> [The mental cognitive processes that we're targeting are ones that narrow human beings' repertoire and make it harder for them to learn to be…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/steven-c-hayes/the-mental-cognitive-processes-that-we-re-targeting-are-ones-that/)

[Steven C. Hayes](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/steven-c-hayes/)

> [What keeps me up at night in a negative way is, if we don't solve the problems of the human heart and of the…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/steven-c-hayes/what-keeps-me-up-at-night-in-a-negative-way-is-if-we-don-t-solve-the/)

[Steven C. Hayes](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/steven-c-hayes/)

> [There are times when you felt especially important to another person, or cared about or loved or accepted. Well, loving relationships aren't something you…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/steven-c-hayes/there-are-times-when-you-felt-especially-important-to-another-person/)

[Steven C. Hayes](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/steven-c-hayes/)

> [I kind of look at what's on the T-shirts and I see another solution, which also worries me. I see "Just do it." "No…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/steven-c-hayes/i-kind-of-look-at-what-s-on-the-t-shirts-and-i-see-another-solution/)

[Steven C. Hayes](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/steven-c-hayes/)

> [The definition of happiness being very emotion-oriented - the problem is that there's too many quick and dirty ways to chase that in ways…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/steven-c-hayes/the-definition-of-happiness-being-very-emotion-oriented-the-problem/)

[Steven C. Hayes](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/steven-c-hayes/)

> [But this cheap-thrill version, this sort of ease definition, the feel-good definition of happiness is an empty promise. Unless we get wiser as to…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/steven-c-hayes/but-this-cheap-thrill-version-this-sort-of-ease-definition-the-feel/)

[Steven C. Hayes](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/steven-c-hayes/)

> [Most people are hurt deeply by betrayals in relationships. It might be better to really get up against and sort of contact that caring,…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/steven-c-hayes/most-people-are-hurt-deeply-by-betrayals-in-relationships-it-might-be/)

[Steven C. Hayes](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/steven-c-hayes/)

> [Get Out of Your Mind and Into Your Life.](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/steven-c-hayes/get-out-of-your-mind-and-into-your-life/)

[Steven C. Hayes](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/steven-c-hayes/)

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