--- title: "1 Story Creates Quotes By Kathy Obear" description: "1 Story Creates quotes by Kathy Obear. Plus more from Kathy Obear and more Story Creates sayings from other authors." image: "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/ee1/kathy-obear-29278_warning-signs_we-create-our-own-reality-by-how-we-choo_1698157.jpg" --- > [“We “create our own reality” by how we choose to make meaning and interpret situations we encounter. Our story creates our feelings, the physiological “warning signs” that we are triggered, and our thoughts about ourselves and others. We are usually…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/kathy-obear/we-create-our-own-reality-by-how-we-choose-to-make-meaning-and/) [Kathy Obear](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/kathy-obear/) [Image](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/ee1/kathy-obear-29278_warning-signs_we-create-our-own-reality-by-how-we-choo_1698157.jpg) ## More by Kathy Obear > [“Unfortunately, once we have reacted, there is no way to undo our impact.”](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/kathy-obear/unfortunately-once-we-have-reacted-there-is-no-way-to-undo-our-impact/) [Kathy Obear](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/kathy-obear/) > [“When our feelings are extremely high, we probably shouldn’t trust our initial perceptions or thoughts. If we have an intense, disproportionate reaction, it is…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/kathy-obear/when-our-feelings-are-extremely-high-we-probably-shouldn-t-trust-our/) [Kathy Obear](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/kathy-obear/) > [“While I may not appreciate someone’s actions in the moment, it is useful to try to understand and relate to the possible underlying reasons…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/kathy-obear/while-i-may-not-appreciate-someone-s-actions-in-the-moment-it-is/) [Kathy Obear](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/kathy-obear/) > [“The ability to observe without evaluation is the highest form of intelligence.” ~ Jiddu Krishnamurti”](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/kathy-obear/the-ability-to-observe-without-evaluation-is-the-highest-form-of/) [Kathy Obear](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/kathy-obear/) > [“We can also use The Cycle as we anticipate how we may feel triggered in future situations. We can imagine how we might typically…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/kathy-obear/we-can-also-use-the-cycle-as-we-anticipate-how-we-may-feel-triggered/) [Kathy Obear](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/kathy-obear/) > [“We either make ourselves miserable or we make ourselves strong. The amount of work is the same.” ~ Carlos Castaneda”](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/kathy-obear/we-either-make-ourselves-miserable-or-we-make-ourselves-strong-the/) [Kathy Obear](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/kathy-obear/) > [“What happened? What were you feeling and thinking? On the -10 to +10 Scale, how intense were your emotions? How did you react? (fight,…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/kathy-obear/what-happened-what-were-you-feeling-and-thinking-on-the-10-to-10/) [Kathy Obear](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/kathy-obear/) > [“However, in my experience, it takes significant skill to be grounded enough to intentionally choose effective responses. And one of the biggest obstacles is…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/kathy-obear/however-in-my-experience-it-takes-significant-skill-to-be-grounded/) [Kathy Obear](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/kathy-obear/) > [“The young child asked, “Which one will win the fight?” And the grandfather replied, “Whichever one you feed.” If we replay and obsess about…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/kathy-obear/the-young-child-asked-which-one-will-win-the-fight-and-the/) [Kathy Obear](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/kathy-obear/) > [“Keep a list in your journal of all the ways you have responded productively in difficult situations, as well as the impact your response…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/kathy-obear/keep-a-list-in-your-journal-of-all-the-ways-you-have-responded/) [Kathy Obear](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/kathy-obear/) > [“We “create our own reality” by how we choose to make meaning and interpret situations we encounter. Our story creates our feelings, the physiological…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/kathy-obear/we-create-our-own-reality-by-how-we-choose-to-make-meaning-and/) [Kathy Obear](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/kathy-obear/) > [“If she had, instead, assumed that her colleague was being curious, possibly wanting to know what he needed to do to be selected for…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/kathy-obear/if-she-had-instead-assumed-that-her-colleague-was-being-curious/) [Kathy Obear](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/kathy-obear/) > [“Whenever you are about to find fault with someone, ask yourself the following question: What fault of mine most nearly resembles the one I…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/kathy-obear/whenever-you-are-about-to-find-fault-with-someone-ask-yourself-the-2/) [Kathy Obear](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/kathy-obear/) > [“my mentor and co-teacher lovingly gave me some feedback and told me that my content was useful but the way I engaged the participants…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/kathy-obear/my-mentor-and-co-teacher-lovingly-gave-me-some-feedback-and-told-me/) [Kathy Obear](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/kathy-obear/) > [“Holding On, Letting Go,” that was offered through the National Training Laboratory (NTL).”](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/kathy-obear/holding-on-letting-go-that-was-offered-through-the-national-training/) [Kathy Obear](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/kathy-obear/) ```json { "@context": "https://schema.org", "@graph": [ { "@type": "ItemList", "@id": "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/about/story-creates/kathy-obear/#itemlist", "name": "1 Story Creates Quotes By Kathy Obear", "numberOfItems": 1, "itemListElement": [ { "@type": "ListItem", "position": 1, "item": { "@type": "Quotation", "text": "“We “create our own reality” by how we choose to make meaning and interpret situations we encounter. 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