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title: "16 Relax Quotes By Pema Chödrön"
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> [Lower your standards and relax as it is.](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/pema-ch-dr-n/lower-your-standards-and-relax-as-it-is/)

[Pema Chodron](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/pema-ch-dr-n/)

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> [Without giving up hope—that there’s somewhere better to be, that there’s someone better to be—we will never relax with where we are…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/pema-ch-dr-n/without-giving-up-hope-that-there-s-somewhere-better-to-be-that-there/)

[Pema Chodron](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/pema-ch-dr-n/)

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> [Compassion practice is daring. It involves learning to relax and allowing ourselves to move gently toward what scares us.](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/pema-ch-dr-n/compassion-practice-is-daring-it-involves-learning-to-relax-and/)

[Pema Chodron](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/pema-ch-dr-n/)

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> [Maybe the most important teaching is to lighten up and relax. It's such a huge help in working with our crazy mixed-up…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/pema-ch-dr-n/maybe-the-most-important-teaching-is-to-lighten-up-and-relax-it-s/)

[Pema Chodron](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/pema-ch-dr-n/)

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> [“When we resist change, it’s called suffering. But when we can completely let go and not struggle against it, when we can…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/pema-ch-dr-n/when-we-resist-change-it-s-called-suffering-but-when-we-can/)

[Pema Chodron](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/pema-ch-dr-n/)

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> [We have a choice. We can spend our whole life suffering because we can't relax with how things really are, or we…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/pema-ch-dr-n/we-have-a-choice-we-can-spend-our-whole-life-suffering-because-we-can/)

[Pema Chodron](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/pema-ch-dr-n/)

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> [I have all the support I need to simply relax and be with the transitional, in-process quality of my life. I have…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/pema-ch-dr-n/i-have-all-the-support-i-need-to-simply-relax-and-be-with-the/)

[Pema Chodron](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/pema-ch-dr-n/)

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> [If we're willing to give up hope that insecurity and pain can be eliminated, then we can have the courage to relax…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/pema-ch-dr-n/if-we-re-willing-to-give-up-hope-that-insecurity-and-pain-can-be/)

[Pema Chodron](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/pema-ch-dr-n/)

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> [In the most ordinary terms, egolessness is a flexible identity. It manifests as inquisitiveness , as adaptability, as humor, as playfulness. It…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/pema-ch-dr-n/in-the-most-ordinary-terms-egolessness-is-a-flexible-identity-it/)

[Pema Chodron](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/pema-ch-dr-n/)

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> [Relaxing with something as familiar as loneliness is good discipline for realizing the profundity of the unresolved moments of our lives. We…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/pema-ch-dr-n/relaxing-with-something-as-familiar-as-loneliness-is-good-discipline/)

[Pema Chodron](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/pema-ch-dr-n/)

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> [It is only when we begin to relax with ourselves that meditation becomes a transformative process. Only when we relate with ourselves…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/pema-ch-dr-n/it-is-only-when-we-begin-to-relax-with-ourselves-that-meditation/)

[Pema Chodron](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/pema-ch-dr-n/)

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> [Sticking with uncertainty is how we learn to relax in the midst of chaos, how we learn to be cool when the…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/pema-ch-dr-n/sticking-with-uncertainty-is-how-we-learn-to-relax-in-the-midst-of/)

[Pema Chodron](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/pema-ch-dr-n/)

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> [As human beings, not only do we seek resolution, but we also feel that we deserve resolution. However, not only do we…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/pema-ch-dr-n/as-human-beings-not-only-do-we-seek-resolution-but-we-also-feel-that/)

[Pema Chodron](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/pema-ch-dr-n/)

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> [Hope and fear come from feeling that we lack something; they come from a sense of poverty. We can’t simply relax with…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/pema-ch-dr-n/hope-and-fear-come-from-feeling-that-we-lack-something-they-come-from/)

[Pema Chodron](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/pema-ch-dr-n/)

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> [When we practice generating compassion, we can expect to experience our fear of pain. Compassion practice is daring. It involves learning to…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/pema-ch-dr-n/when-we-practice-generating-compassion-we-can-expect-to-experience/)

[Pema Chodron](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/pema-ch-dr-n/)

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> [Ordinarily we are swept away by habitual momentum. We don't interrupt our patterns even slightly. With practice, however, we learn to stay…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/pema-ch-dr-n/ordinarily-we-are-swept-away-by-habitual-momentum-we-don-t-interrupt/)

[Pema Chodron](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/pema-ch-dr-n/)

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## Other authors on Relax

## More by Pema Chödrön

> [“LIFE’S work is to wake up, to let the things that enter into your life wake you up rather than put you to sleep.…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/pema-ch-dr-n/life-s-work-is-to-wake-up-to-let-the-things-that-enter-into-your-life/)

[Pema Chödrön](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/pema-ch-dr-n/)

> [Since death is certain and the time of death is uncertain, what is the most important thing?](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/pema-ch-dr-n/since-death-is-certain-and-the-time-of-death-is-uncertain-what-is-the/)

[Pema Chodron](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/pema-ch-dr-n/)

> [Buddhist words such as compassion and emptiness don't mean much until we start cultivating our innate ability simply to be there with pain with…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/pema-ch-dr-n/buddhist-words-such-as-compassion-and-emptiness-don-t-mean-much-until/)

[Pema Chodron](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/pema-ch-dr-n/)

> [The essence of generosity is letting go. Pain is always a sign that we are holding on to something - usually ourselves.](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/pema-ch-dr-n/the-essence-of-generosity-is-letting-go-pain-is-always-a-sign-that-we/)

[Pema Chodron](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/pema-ch-dr-n/)

> [“If the object of meditation were something concrete, something solid and graspable - an image or a statue or a dot on the floor…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/pema-ch-dr-n/if-the-object-of-meditation-were-something-concrete-something-solid/)

[Pema Chödrön](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/pema-ch-dr-n/)

> [It's a transformative experience to simply pause instead of immediately fill up the space. By waiting, we begin to connect with fundamental restlessness as…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/pema-ch-dr-n/it-s-a-transformative-experience-to-simply-pause-instead-of/)

[Pema Chodron](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/pema-ch-dr-n/)

> [“The essence of life is that it’s challenging. Sometimes it is sweet, and sometimes it is bitter. Sometimes your body tenses, and sometimes it…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/pema-ch-dr-n/the-essence-of-life-is-that-it-s-challenging-sometimes-it-is-sweet/)

[Pema Chödrön](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/pema-ch-dr-n/)

> [If we run a hundred miles an hour to the other end of the continent in order to get away from the obstacle, we…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/pema-ch-dr-n/if-we-run-a-hundred-miles-an-hour-to-the-other-end-of-the-continent/)

[Pema Chodron](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/pema-ch-dr-n/)

> [“But in this meditation technique, we are with the out-breath; there's no particular instruction about what to do until the next out-breath.”](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/pema-ch-dr-n/but-in-this-meditation-technique-we-are-with-the-out-breath-there-s/)

[Pema Chödrön](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/pema-ch-dr-n/)

> [“Nothing ever goes away until it has taught us what we need to know. Nothing ever really attacks us except our own confusion. Perhaps…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/pema-ch-dr-n/nothing-ever-goes-away-until-it-has-taught-us-what-we-need-to-know/)

[Pema Chödrön](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/pema-ch-dr-n/)

> [So even if the hot loneliness is there, and for 1.6 seconds we sit with that restlessness when yesterday we couldn't sit for even…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/pema-ch-dr-n/so-even-if-the-hot-loneliness-is-there-and-for-1-6-seconds-we-sit/)

[Pema Chodron](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/pema-ch-dr-n/)

> [If you have rage and righteously act it out and blame it all on others, it's really you who suffers. The other people and…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/pema-ch-dr-n/if-you-have-rage-and-righteously-act-it-out-and-blame-it-all-on/)

[Pema Chodron](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/pema-ch-dr-n/)

> [“When we realize that the path is the goal, there’s a sense of workability. Trungpa Rinpoche said, “Whatever occurs in the confused mind is…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/pema-ch-dr-n/when-we-realize-that-the-path-is-the-goal-there-s-a-sense-of/)

[Pema Chödrön](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/pema-ch-dr-n/)

> [Every day is a new opportunity to work with what you have inside toward enlightenment.](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/pema-ch-dr-n/every-day-is-a-new-opportunity-to-work-with-what-you-have-inside/)

[Pema Chodron](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/pema-ch-dr-n/)

> [If someone comes along and shoots an arrow into your heart, it’s fruitless to stand there and yell at the person. It would be…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/pema-ch-dr-n/if-someone-comes-along-and-shoots-an-arrow-into-your-heart-it-s/)

[Pema Chodron](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/pema-ch-dr-n/)

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