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title: "2 Relational-trauma Quotes by 2 authors"
description: "Browse 2 Relational-trauma quotes by 2 authors. Discover the best Relational-trauma sayings and thoughts."
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> [“I regard longings for twinship or emotional kinship as being reactive to emotional trauma, with its accompanying feelings of singularity, estrangement, and solitude.”](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/robert-d-stolorow/i-regard-longings-for-twinship-or-emotional-kinship-as-being-reactive/)

[Robert D. Stolorow](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/robert-d-stolorow/)

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> [“The development of a working alliance is crucial because it addresses a psychic phobia associated with relationships that is common in complex trauma clients. As we discussed, when primary relationships are sources of profound disillusionment, betrayal, and emotional pain, any…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/christine-a-courtois/the-development-of-a-working-alliance-is-crucial-because-it-addresses/)

[Christine A. Courtois](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/christine-a-courtois/)

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