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title: "3 Realizing Mother Quotes by 3 authors"
description: "Browse 3 Realizing Mother quotes by 3 authors. Discover the best Realizing Mother sayings and thoughts."
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> [“Realizing your own mother was incapable of truly seeing you—of loving you for who you are rather than as an extension of…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/shari-franke/realizing-your-own-mother-was-incapable-of-truly-seeing-you-of-loving/)

[Shari Franke](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/shari-franke/)

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> [Having children can smooth the relationship, too. Mother and daughter are now equals. That is hard to imagine, even harder to accept,…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/anna-quindlen/having-children-can-smooth-the-relationship-too-mother-and-daughter/)

[Anna Quindlen](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/anna-quindlen/)

[Image](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/e10/anna-quindlen-467_accepting_having-children-can-smooth-the-relations_1216442.png)

> [The desolation and terror of, for the first time, realizing that the mother can lose you, or you her, and your own…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/francis-thompson/the-desolation-and-terror-of-for-the-first-time-realizing-that-the/)

[Francis Thompson](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/francis-thompson/)

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