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> [“This was a hard-won but brilliant education: I had realized, as life is always willing to instruct, that the world as we see it is only the published version. The subterranean realms, whether churches or hospital rooms or smoke-filled basements,…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/gail-caldwell/this-was-a-hard-won-but-brilliant-education-i-had-realized-as-life-is/)

[Gail Caldwell](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/gail-caldwell/)

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## More by Gail Caldwell

> [“The other thing I know now, is that we survive grief merely and surely by outlasting it. The ongoing fact of the narrative eclipses…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/gail-caldwell/the-other-thing-i-know-now-is-that-we-survive-grief-merely-and-surely/)

[Gail Caldwell](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/gail-caldwell/)

> [The only education in grief that any of us ever gets is a crash course.](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/gail-caldwell/the-only-education-in-grief-that-any-of-us-ever-gets-is-a-crash-course/)

[Gail Caldwell](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/gail-caldwell/)

> [Maybe this is the point: to embrace the core sadness of life without toppling headlong into it, or assuming it will define your days.](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/gail-caldwell/maybe-this-is-the-point-to-embrace-the-core-sadness-of-life-without/)

[Gail Caldwell](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/gail-caldwell/)

> [The real hell of this," he told her, "is that you're going to get through it.](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/gail-caldwell/the-real-hell-of-this-he-told-her-is-that-you-re-going-to-get-through/)

[Gail Caldwell](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/gail-caldwell/)

> [I'd confused need with love and love with sacrifice.](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/gail-caldwell/i-d-confused-need-with-love-and-love-with-sacrifice/)

[Gail Caldwell](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/gail-caldwell/)

> [Grief doesn't necessarily make you noble. Sometimes it just makes you crazy, or primitive with fear.](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/gail-caldwell/grief-doesn-t-necessarily-make-you-noble-sometimes-it-just-makes-you/)

[Gail Caldwell](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/gail-caldwell/)

> [You can’t change the tale so that you turned left one day instead of right, or didn’t make the mistake that might have saved…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/gail-caldwell/you-can-t-change-the-tale-so-that-you-turned-left-one-day-instead-of/)

[Gail Caldwell](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/gail-caldwell/)

> [“From the first winter afternoon in the Harvard ball fields, "Oh no--I need you" had become an admission and a clarion call--the tenet of…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/gail-caldwell/from-the-first-winter-afternoon-in-the-harvard-ball-fields-oh-no-i/)

[Gail Caldwell](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/gail-caldwell/)

> [“Most of us wander in and out of one another's lives until not death, but distance, does us part--time and space and the heart's…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/gail-caldwell/most-of-us-wander-in-and-out-of-one-another-s-lives-until-not-death/)

[Gail Caldwell](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/gail-caldwell/)

> [“Everything about death is a cliché until you're in it.”](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/gail-caldwell/everything-about-death-is-a-clich-until-you-re-in-it/)

[Gail Caldwell](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/gail-caldwell/)

> [What they never tell you about grief is that missing someone is the simple part.](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/gail-caldwell/what-they-never-tell-you-about-grief-is-that-missing-someone-is-the/)

[Gail Caldwell](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/gail-caldwell/)

> [memory is both the curse of grief and the eventual talisman against it; what at first seems unbearable becomes the succor that can outlast…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/gail-caldwell/memory-is-both-the-curse-of-grief-and-the-eventual-talisman-against/)

[Gail Caldwell](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/gail-caldwell/)

> [“Counting on each other became automatic. When I found a sweater in Texas I wanted, I learned to buy two, which was easier than…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/gail-caldwell/counting-on-each-other-became-automatic-when-i-found-a-sweater-in/)

[Gail Caldwell](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/gail-caldwell/)

> [I know now that we never get over great losses; we absorb them, and they carve us into different, often kinder, creatures.](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/gail-caldwell/i-know-now-that-we-never-get-over-great-losses-we-absorb-them-and/)

[Gail Caldwell](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/gail-caldwell/)

> [The flaw is the thing we love.](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/gail-caldwell/the-flaw-is-the-thing-we-love/)

[Gail Caldwell](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/gail-caldwell/)

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